Have you told the people that you love that you're kinky? Why or why not? What are the pros and cons, how would you do it?
"I am looking for a NEW SUBMISSIVE to collar as my slave." Why? This comment is perhaps one of the more common statements made by Male Dominant names in Internet chat rooms.
Please take a moment to read the article titled 'Hard Limits' before continuing to read this article.
9/17/22 Topic Chat What We Want to Tell Our Younger Selves
10/8/22 discussion of Trust in BDSM
Common Mistakes New People Make
When in doubt - be courteous. Good manners are always appropriate especially in the event of unexpected situations where you are unsure of what to do or say.
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It is seldom possible to divorce our inner feelings entirely from the thoughts, considerations and even dreams upon which we were raised. Within the mind the concept of 'marriage' tends to connotate permanence, commitment, devotion, stability with the reflections of integrity, honor and trust included. Violation of the sanctity of given oaths in it's simplest form demonstrates a willingness on the part of the individual to vacate the integrity of these concepts without notification or assumption of responsibility to their involved contractual partner. |
As with all things the cyber realm has two faces. One positive and one negative. We, as a community cannot ignore this new child among us. Nor can we impose upon it rules and standards that no longer work with the efficacy of the past. We have to accept that we too must change, adapt and overcome the problems. Seek new answers and find ways to welcome the newness instead of isolating them from the assistance and information they too need.
Collaring is the term commonly used by those in the D/s community to describe the commencement of a relationship between a Dominant and a submissive. It carries the same type of weight that a marriage ring does in it's final stage and denotes the same depth of commitment. In recent times (since the advent of the Internet) we have seen a bastardizing of this ritual into something casual and transient. This attack on long standing traditions should be actively fought by educating those entering the lifestyle.
Submissive Frenzy is a state of mind that you may experience at any point in your submission.
What is cuckqueaning?
tarryn{MHK} and kissa divide and discuss punishment and play punishment - funishment.
A clear definition of protocol within the BDSM community - "a set of governing rules that dictate the body, behavior and attitudes through an enforced code of behavior and/or rituals whether it be within the confines of a particular group, community, or interpersonal dynamic".
I kind of have an issue with saying "I use this as a coping mechanism".
In this day and age, is 24/7 truly possible? Are BDSM dynamics moments in time? Or is 24/7 a state of mind?
BDSM Red Flags
Love your Bootblacks? I know a lot of you do. Here's one thing you can do to help us out without tipping a penny.
What makes a good top and bottom?
I was curious how one makes sure rape doesn't happen in a D/s relationship.
The primal state is very, very deep, far beyond the "civilized" nature, our truest selves.
06/08/19 by DaddyNor and Evangel
05/01/2019 Chat topic on Protocol
Garden chat topic lead by Jaxxy, Wednesday May 29, 2019
How do you balance vanilla life and kink; what do you do when life gets in the way?