Have you told the people that you love that you're kinky? Why or why not? What are the pros and cons, how would you do it?
Negotiation, consent, and communication before, during, and after a scene.
11/2/22 Sero discusses various aspects of consent.
Common Mistakes New People Make
When in doubt - be courteous. Good manners are always appropriate especially in the event of unexpected situations where you are unsure of what to do or say.
Up till now it has all been long distance, detached from reality. Now what?
As with all things the cyber realm has two faces. One positive and one negative. We, as a community cannot ignore this new child among us. Nor can we impose upon it rules and standards that no longer work with the efficacy of the past. We have to accept that we too must change, adapt and overcome the problems. Seek new answers and find ways to welcome the newness instead of isolating them from the assistance and information they too need.
An agreement which is usually created in a formal way, to be regarded with solemn integrity, formed to be binding upon those who engage in the covenant together. This type of formal agreement is often considered within the light of 'common-law' or is held to be above or of more importance, strength or durability than casual agreements or promises. In some cases a covenant is considered to be 'binding words' within which the entirety of the 'promise of delivery' is incorporated.
Relationships end. Sometimes through the willful choice of both partners, other times one may ask for or be released. In either case the ending of a relationship is painful. In my opinion many D/s relationships tend to function in a deeper response zone in the psyche. I have been send numerable letters recently asking me about coping in the aftermath, both from Dominant's and from submissives. What kind of aftercare should exist? What obligations continue even after the relationship has ended?
This is based on a real life question about the possibility of converting a vanilla person toward the kink lifestyle known as D/s BDSM. I will not address the ethics of whether or not one should consider this but instead look at the possibilities.
Control - To exercise restraining or directing influence over.
A consequence is the 'necessary result' of an action.
Consent: Compliance with or in approval of what is done or proposed by another.
To be able to readily call forth, evoke, exact or compel. The art of command requires the ability to deliver an instruction into the very center of a submissives response centers.
Collaring is the term commonly used by those in the D/s community to describe the commencement of a relationship between a Dominant and a submissive. It carries the same type of weight that a marriage ring does in it's final stage and denotes the same depth of commitment. In recent times (since the advent of the Internet) we have seen a bastardizing of this ritual into something casual and transient. This attack on long standing traditions should be actively fought by educating those entering the lifestyle.
Nov 29 by MissWolf[K] and Kitten[MW]. A deep dive into the subject of collaring ceremonies.
An organized pattern or shaped ruling structure
A few code words.
Moving away from the dominance of childhood
The concepts of consent were very, very carefully thought out since this community has spent many years being viewed as the same as abusive or assaultive relationships.
To accuse falsely. To call into question, require verification, explanation or justification. To express that one is unjust or invalid. To accuse, to reproach or object.
The desire to cage or be caged can be very strong.
Theoretical consent and its real life applications.
Chat topic 8/30/20. Talk about the almost opposite of jealousy.
What is cuckqueaning?