The following are my reference notes from a talk I gave on Service Submission, to MAsT Sydney, July 2016.

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Service Submission - aka Service Oriented, aka Service Orientation (Luxury Lifestyle Submission)

Definition - What is Service Submission?

Service occurs where one party contributes resources to another party, and in terms of a power exchange, it is usually the submissive contributing resources to the Dominant. This can be done by performing a task, or acting on the behalf of the Dominant.

If the women don't find you handsome, they should at least find you handy - Red Green

Reasons for Being a Service Submissive or for Offering Service?

- Expression of affection
- Emotional fulfilment
- Arousal
- Personal satisfaction
- Ego
- Play
- Feeling useful

What are the Benefits - for the Top, for the Bottom?

For the Top: Delegation of tasks to trusted and reliable helper, pampering, fantasy focused on seeing to your needs and pleasure.

For the Bottom: To be useful, to make everyday tasks special, makes for interesting play, satisfaction for a job well done.

They will call you Sir and shine your shoes -Steely Dan

Types of Service Submissives

Domestic Variety:
- Chef, bootblack, handy person, concierge, house cleaner, butler, steward, masseuse, valet, lady's maid, personal assistant, chauffeur, attendant, companion...

BDSM Variety:
- Top/bottom, attendant, sexual...

How to Become a Service Submissive

- Find what you have a talent/passion for, and offer it.

The only real stumbling block is fear of failure.
In cooking, you've got to have a what-the-hell attitude - Julia Child

How to Receive/Refuse Service

- Receive service with the trust that it has been offered with the best of intentions and the purest motives. Offer service with a good heart, and sincerity.
- Refuse service with kindness, without guilt. Accept the refusal with grace and understanding it is not a rejection, and is not a judgement of you or your skills.
- If refusing a request for service, do so with kindness and grace.

Advice for the Single/Unowned Service Submissive

- Offer service at play parties - speak to the host/hostess
- Cook for friends/family
- Offer massage to kink friendly friends
- Offer to attend a Dominant friend
- Research protocol and etiquette as practiced in other cultures
- Read/learn/educate

Basic Kit

Food and Beverage
- Good sharp knives, cutting board, serving board, trays, picnic basket/esky

Massage
- Massage oil, lotion, hand towels, baby wipes

Sexual Play
- Safe sex kit (gloves, lube, condoms, Viraclean, Chlorhexidrine, dental dams - have a regular set and a latex free set)

Leather Care
- Shoes - polish, soft cloth
- Leather toys or clothing - Dubbin

General
- Lettered stationary, wax seals, calligraphy pens

A new broom sweeps clean, but the old broom knows the corners - Irish Proverb

Resources

Websites:
- www.craftsy.com (cooking)
- www.youtube.com (cooking, mending, place settings, stain removal, textile care, personal dress)
- www.textileaffairs.com/lguide.htm (guide to textile labels)
- www.stain-removal-101.com/stain-removal-guide.html (stain removal guide)
- www.iloveclaude.com (safe sex play packs and information)
- www.howhard.com.au (safe sex play packs and information)

Books:
Martha Stewart's Homekeeping Handbook
The Butler's Guide to Running the Home and Other Graces by Stanley Ager and Fiona St. Aubyn
The Butler Speaks: A Return to Proper Etiquette, Stylish Entertaining, and the Art of Good Housekeeping by Charles MacPherson
Mrs. Beeton's Book of Household Management by Isabella Beeton
Butlers & Household Managers: 21st Century Professionals by Steven M. Ferry

Acquire Kit:
- The Reject Shop, Daiso, Dollar Stores
- Estate sales, flea markets, garage sales, The Green Shed, Salvos, Op Shop
- www.aliexpress.com
- www.ebay.com
- www.etsy.com
- www.gumtree.com.au