A few go to items that I like to always have on hand to tackle certain tasks or jobs.
If someone is offering service, it can often be very difficult for the receiver to know how to act, how to accept such service.
One of the misconceptions of service submission is service means free labour. Service, has a cost - both seen and unseen - and it can be calculated.
Replying to a personal ad, or showing someone you're interested in him/her, has become a lost art.
My reference notes from a talk I gave on Service Submission, to MAsT Sydney, July 2016.
How to spot a faker.
There are many pro's and con's to being single and being unowned.
Exploring the whys of submissive self-ownership.
A discussion of Impact Play.
My most cited piece. This was an article I wrote in protest against some of the ugliness, visciousness and and stupidity I started seeing in the DC scene in the wake of the Black Rose Tenth Anniversary Celebration. Little did I know how universal the problems were in the community at large.....
Within the BDSM Scene there is a lot of conversation about consent. And there should be.
General Kink Etiquette- These are some basic guidelines to follow.
Please give this post some thought. Get to know your potential bottoms well enough to engage in these type conversations. Whatever you do, have some "Plan B" that will allow a rope bottom to get loose in the event of an emergency.
Teaching with no ego.
A Chronicle of the Hook Pull performed by Fakir Musafar and Cleo Duboise at Black Rose 2002
Communication techniques for use during play
The most important thing of all is the accountability of the individuals engaged in the activity itself.
A short chapter from my never published, book length treatise on impact play.
There are indeed people out there who I would consider Masters of their trade within BDSM circles. These folks have spent a great deal of time and effort into learning their craft and it shows.
One of my contributions to Black Rose was the development of the Dungeon Monitoring Training Program, in 1998. I was the maintainer of the DM Guide until Kernmantle stepped down as Chief DM, in the mid 2000s. The attached handbook was my last revision which addressed new issues like the relationship between safety and dungeon design as well as my attempt to classify different kinds of play by safety risk factors. I wrote it so that it did NOT include, as earlier versions did, a defacto, built in set of house rules. It was my hope that this would make it easier to adapt to a wide range of play environments, be they home dungeon parties, fetish clubs, or thousand person play events with differing sets of needs.
A single tail(ed whip) is any tapered, braided whip.
This is an article I wrote in 1997 addressing what I felt to be inadequacies in SM's most famous rubric.
How many times have you come across someone (it doesn't matter Dom/mme, sub, Master, slave, switch, Top, bottom) that either claims to be or is seeking someone that is "no limits"?
Updated 5/5/16 Certain botanical irritants are very efficient at causing pain without damage or much effort. A discussion of using nettles, ginger, and peppers in play.
A very affordable home made toy for Kink on a budget.