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Through a door in the Courtesan's palazzo Attic, is a rare rooftop garden in Venice. High walls prevent the city's carnevale patrons from viewing the flowers gracing the hidden bounty of the lush garden, but those that dare to visit the Courtesan's home are always welcome to wander the tiny paths and revel in the beauty of every flower and thorn. In The Garden, guests learn and share the ideas and realities of pain mixed with pleasure and a moment or lifetime of consensual service.
The elements of power exchange first engage the concept of human's personal power. We are born with this power, developing it as we mature, and use it to function in daily life. We use it to make decisions about our personal lives, business, and interactions with others; it is the element of control that we, have over our lives and everything surrounding us. In BDSM and in a D/s relationship, some or all of one individual's (the submissive or slave's) personal power is voluntarily given, through negotiation, to another person (the Dominant), in exchange for the fulfillment of certain requirements. In a scene, the bottom yields control or power to the Top through and for the same means. "The depth of power yielded by the submissive is equal to the level of responsibility assumed by the dominant." 1
Many myths surrounding BDSM and Domination and submission. One long-lived myth that one party is being abused by someone in some kind of authority. The Garden and the majority of lifestyle participants do not espouse or condone abuse in any way and insist that every journey, activity and relationship be safe, sane, and consensual in every way. We reject bullies and abusers. Other myths include the idea that every interaction involves "whips and chains" and involve "masters and slaves". This is far from the truth, yet very close to it. While a certain amount of bondage and erotic pain may be involved in the sensual aspect of a Dominant/submissive relationship, it is not always included in the choices made by a couple; they alone decide on what happens in their personal dynamic. Also, not all bottoms are submissive, not all submissives are slaves, just as not every top is Dominant, and not every Dominant is a Master. The couple decides on the depth of the power exchange. As in relationships that do not include BDSM, the couple alone decides on the rules of the relationship and every couple is different. "There is no right or wrong way to do BDSM."2 Join us in reading and sharing our thoughts through our archived writing, forums, and support pages. Ask questions, and with us, learn about how and why we do what we do but please remember that while learning and starting online can be wonderful, one on one, offline experience is the best, most fulfilling teacher.
1 Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism, Miller and Devon, Mystic Rose Books,1995, p. 235
2 The Loving Dominant, John Warren, ed.2, Greenery Press, 2000. p. 15
Please remember that The Garden is a haven for different philosophical views on BDSM and D/s in order to expose readers to the possibilities. The reader is always encouraged to ponder these views in order to assimilate his, her, or their own views. The views expressed by individuals in their writing is not necessarily shared by the site administration itself. Feel free to respond...
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The Garden is an online resource community to educate those already practicing or wishing to learn the art and lifestyle of Domination and submission in their various forms and practices. Join us in reading and sharing through our growing collection of essays, definitions, and BDSM Munch-style chat. Ask questions, and with us, learn about how and why we do what we do but remember that while learning...
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It is such a complex biochemical process that it would be good for us to understand.
Your consent, as a gift and as abuse, with a Three Minute Game for couples.
For all the power that we Doms exercise, the greatest power of all is the power that we never use
Buttplugs are very effective ways to put somebody into submissive mind space.
What is trust anyway why do we need it in BDSM.
You don't get to submit - or dominate - only when you're in the mood.
I also said when not if, could it be an if at all?
As part of your negotiation, ask this question.
To fully consent, one must understand and anticipate all of the potential consequences.
One of the most fascinating aspects of BDSM is its ability to induce altered states of consciousness.
Just because you don't always submit, does not mean you are not A submissive