Have you told the people that you love that you're kinky? Why or why not? What are the pros and cons, how would you do it?
01/02/2022 kissa leads a discussion on Drop on another server.
12/10/22 kissa discusses red flags in the lifestyle and in chosing a partner.
3/18/23 Sid explores the reasons for and possible ways for an individual to bring forth their authentic selves within the lifestyle.
3/11/23 Sid talks about mental domination and submission and the connection between partners
11/16/22 Sero leads a discussion on how we can maintain a long distance relationship in BDSM.
11/5/22 Nimah (Ava) and Sid talk about Being Primal
Analysising who is real, who is play, who is cyber etc., is a failure.
We call ourselves a community. Within that community we stand uneasily in the company of others of our kind.
Have you wondered where the intense explosive sexual experience is? It appears we have been robbed!
Sometimes it is in the feelings and responses of others that we learn or relearn simple lessons. In this I have been both perpetrator and victim.
There is nothing more important than trust. It is fairly said that the first gift of the submissive is absolute trust.
Trust is the confident dependence on the character, ability, strength or truth of the individual. Trustworthiness is not transient, temporary or in selective existence.
The Training Collar represents the second collar exchanged between a Dominant and a submissive.
To be trained is to be shaped in a direction or path that is unnatural to the individual.
Tops Disease is the corruption of power.
A Dominant acts as a guardian for the life, welfare, mental and physical well being of any submissive whom they accept within their territory or life. Care of - two very significant words.
You cannot solve any relationship issue by force. A top cannot simply tell a bottom to 'accept' it, or 'get over it'. If that top does try this in a fairly short time they will be just a person living single.
The S/m lifestyle is full of titles. Ceremonial forms of address which often allude to or denote behavior as well.
The Wall: The Wall is one identification of the limit that the mind and body are physically capable of processing.
The Voice, language, command structures and delivery are perhaps the least understood, most illusive and hardest to convey concepts in text form.
The Toy Box is an individual's assemblage of toys.
A sexual submissive is a person who manifests submissive traits only in direct connection with sexual arousal and release.
It is fairly said that the first gift of the submissive is absolute trust. This action of faith and belief precede true knowledge of the dominant that each submissive invests in.
Focusing on the difficulties that a Sadist faces from social implications and expectations to the risks we take on while we do what we do and how that can cause some difficulties in rationalizing doing what we do.