The handicapped in the BDSM community are often overlooked and many assume they do not exist. They do.
As an erotic, sensual practice -- hair and scalp tugging are quite popular. For some people there is a desire for a leisurely massage, for others the hunger for a sharp, eye watering tug.
The Formal Collar (frequently called the Slave Collar) is the representation of the final stage of commitment between the Dominant and submissive.
Within the BDSM community there is a growing conscious awareness of the manipulation of energy, the movement of that energy from one person to another and back as well as the flow or blockage of that energy.
Are you looking for a magic spell? That unique formulae that will guarantee you the results you want? Well, there isn't any trick. Not really.
An object of extreme or irrational reverence or devotion. The often pathological displacement of erotic or libidinal interest sufficient to stimulate actions of worship.
The forms required by good breeding or prescribed by authority or direction to be displayed, observed and implemented in social or public life.
Energetics is about realizing, accessing and manifesting our potentials through awareness to energy.
We have biological preSet structure to how our mind works and potentially to specific types of language usage.
It is important to remember that a Dominant or submissive who is in 'space' will remember differently, or that space will alter how that memory 'feels'.
Abuse is to institute, practice or otherwise implement a corrupt concept.
Emergence is a term sometimes used to describe the process that many people experience when they 'find' either themselves or the lifestyle of BDSM.
To me, the peak of EDGE PLAY is within the mind itself. It is to take the submissive further, to trust deeper, fly higher than they have ever believed possible
A dominant can easily be equated with a guru. There is a certain lure to adopting the role of teacher, mentor, guide, owner, parent, sometimes even god or goddess as part of the interpretation of 'being dominant'.
A Dominant is a person with a dominant aspect in their personality. A Master is a Dominant with significant real life BDSM experience.
Space . . . the beckoning edge of the mind. It defies ready description, challenges us with its illusive presence yet exists in the same undefinable way that all intangible things exist.
The detaching of a Dominant due to excess energy release!
The first choice and decision you must make when approaching this lifestyle is the apparently simple choice to Do No Harm!
Check your potential partners reputation. Ask questions. Ask subs they used to be with. Listen to the itch in your brain that something isn't right. Be safe.
Does frequent scening or the ongoing interaction of a full D/s relationship desensitize the submissive?
Fear and denial of who we are, offer some of the greatest devastation's to the human spirit.
When in doubt - be courteous. Good manners are always appropriate especially in the event of unexpected situations where you are unsure of what to do or say.
Up till now it has all been long distance, detached from reality. Now what?
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It is seldom possible to divorce our inner feelings entirely from the thoughts, considerations and even dreams upon which we were raised. Within the mind the concept of 'marriage' tends to connotate permanence, commitment, devotion, stability with the reflections of integrity, honor and trust included. Violation of the sanctity of given oaths in it's simplest form demonstrates a willingness on the part of the individual to vacate the integrity of these concepts without notification or assumption of responsibility to their involved contractual partner. |
Please note - If you have a serious mental illness relating to abuse in any form that you should immediately seek out excellent professional assistance and work through, process or otherwise reach a point of mental stability. This should occur prior to seeking out or engaging in a D/s relationship. A D/s relationship requires mental health or competence as part of it's fundamental ideal of consent! You should not look for a relationship to rescue or heal your abuse!