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Gender and Sexuality Glossary A-D

This glossary is, by definition and nature, incomplete due to ever evolving definitions and separation of gender and orientation. The Garden is aware that there are many genders and orientations are not represented here due to population concentration and space available. However, if members wish specific definitions added, please send us a note and we will add it.

- aesthetic	"You look nice"
- alterous	can best be described as desiring emotional closeness with someone; is neither platonic nor romantic but rather somewhere in between the two
- fluid	attraction to a person without regard to the persons' sexual orientations such as gay, straight, bi, trans, queer and therefore does define with one orientation
- flux	fluctuating in intensity
- platonic	"I want to be friends with you"
- romantic	"I want to date you"
- sensual	"I want to hug/kiss you"
- sexual	"I want to have sex with you"
A-	lack of attraction
Abimegender	a gender that is profound, deep, and infinite; meant to resemble when one mirror is reflecting into another mirror creating an infinite paradox
Abro-	having an orientation or feelings about it that constantly change and cannot be pinned down for this reason
Abundant Love	The belief or philosophy that it is possible to love more than one person at the same time.
Ace	A short, slang version for asexual.
Ace Ring	A black ring (also known as an ace ring) worn on the middle finger of one's right hand is a way asexual people signify their asexuality. The ring is deliberately worn in a similar manner as one would a wedding ring to symbolize asexuality. Use of the symbol began in 2005.
Aceflux	similar to genderflux where the intensity of sexual attraction you feel fluctuates; asexual to demisexual to allosexual and back
Adamasgender	a gender which refuses to be categorized
Adelphogamy / Fraternal Polyandry / Leviratic Polyandry	(Literally, adelphos brother + gamos marriage) A specific form of polyandry, practiced historically and occasionally still practiced in some portions of Tibet and Nepal, in which a set of brothers is married to the same woman.
Aego-	feeling attraction or desire only for situations that does not involve oneself; previously known as autochoris-
Aerogender	a gender that is influenced by your surroundings
Aesthetigender	a gender that is derived from an aesthetic; also known as videgender
AFAB/FAAB	Assigned Female At Birth/ Female Assigned At Birth
Affectugender	a gender that is affected by mood swings
Ag/Aggressive / Stud	A Black or Latina lesbian with a very masculine gender presentation, often being read as boys or men, but usually not identifying as male.
Agender	A person without gender. An agender individual's body does not necessarily correspond with their lack of gender identity. Often, agender individuals are not concerned with their physical sex, but some may seek to look androgynous.
Agender Flags	1. Created 2014 by Salem X/"Ska". It has seven horizontal stripes which are colored (top to bottom) black, grey, white, green, white, grey, black. Both black and white represent the complete absence of gender. Grey represents being semi-genderless. Green represents nonbinary gender, because it is the inverse of purple. 2. Created 2014 by Rumpus Parable. Simple and clean lined agender flag design. Black is to indicate a distinct identity in those without gender. The color black for agender persons is chosen for its correspondence with black being the total absence of color in the light spectrum. White acknowledges the historical use as an all-inclusive color for anyone who is non-binary in sex and/or gender and the identity color of black to be placed against to indicate its specific grouping within that traditionally generalized non-binary color. The two colors have been used alone to intentionally be agender specific without the addition of others usually seen to give reference to gendered identities of any type and aesthetically to create a stark, bold, and simple contrast for the emphasis in the difference and separation from genders expressed and included in other pride flags.
Agender Symbol	This symbol represents genderless, sexless, asexual, neutrois, or neuter. Represents both Venus and Mars
Agenderflux	Being agender and having fluctuating feelings of masculinity of femininity, but NOT male or female
Akoi-	the feeling of attraction but not wanting it reciprocated or losing it when it is reciprocated; used as an alternative and potentially less problematic form of lithosexual/lithoromantic
Alexigender	a gender that is fluid between more than one gender but the individual cannot tell what those genders are
Aliqua	not normally feeling attraction, but feeling it on occasion under specific circumstances
Aliusgender / Aliagender	a gender which is removed from common gender descriptors and guidelines
Alloromantic	Someone who is not on the aromantic spectrum.
Allosexual	Someone who is not on the asexual spectrum.
Ally	1. Someone who actively confronts heterosexism, anti- LGBTQ biases, heterosexual and cisgender privilege in themselves and others 2. Has concern for the well being of lesbian, gay, bisexual, trans*, intersex, queer, and other similarly identified people 3. Believes that heterosexism, homophobia, biphobia and transphobia are social justice issues.
AMAB/MAAB	Assigned Male At Birth/Male Assigned At Birth
Amaregender	a gender that changes depending on who you're in love with
Amatonormativity	The assumption that a central, exclusive, amorous relationship is normal for humans, in that it is a universally shared goal, and that such a relationship is normative, in the sense that it should be aimed at in preference to other relationship types.
Ambigender	defined as having the feeling of two genders simultaneously without fluctuation; meant to reflect the concept of being ambidextrous, only with gender
Ambonec	identifying as both man and woman, yet neither at the same time
Amicagender	a gender that changes depending on which friend you're with
Amicus-	when you're attracted to people you're platonically attracted to
Amorplatonic	experiencing romantic attraction but only wanting to be in queerplatonic/quasiplatonic relationships
Androgyne	Person appearing and/or identifying as neither man nor woman. Some androgyne individuals may present in a gender neutral or androgynous way.
Androgynoromantic	Person who feels romantic attraction to androgyny
Androgynous / Androgyny	An androgynous person is someone who feels and expresses both masculinity and femininity simultaneously, fluctuating from more masculine to more feminine or equal.
Androphilia	sexual attraction to men or masculinity;
Anesigender	feeling like a certain gender yet being more comfortable identifying with another
Angenital	a desire to be without primary sexual characteristics, without necessarily being genderless; one may be both angenital and identify as any other gender alongside
anisosexual	microlabel Anisosexual/homoflexible, elasexual/heteroflexible Anisosexual can be a sub-community of bisexual or polysexual
Anogender/Anagender	a gender that fades in and out but always comes back to the same feeling
Anongender	a gender that is unknown to both yourself and others
Antegender	a protean gender which has the potential to be anything, but is formless and motionless, and therefore, does not manifest as any particular gender
anti-androgens	Drugs that are used to block the production or interfere with the action of male sex hormones. Often used in combination with estrogen in MTF hormone therapy; commonly used anti-androgens are spironolactone and finasteride. See also "estrogen" and "hormone therapy."
Antihaemosexual	Person sexually attracted to woman not menstruating.
Anxiegender	a gender that is affected by anxiety
Apagender	a feeling of apathy towards ones gender which leads to them not looking any further into it
Apconsugender	a gender where you know what it isn't, but not what it is; the gender is hiding itself from you
Aporagender	Somebody with a strong gender identification of themselves that is non-binary
Apothi-	being aromantic/asexual and not experiencing any romantic/sexual feelings in any shape or form; aromantic/asexual individuals who are romance/sex repulsed
Aro	a short, slang version of aromantic.
Aroflux	similar to genderflux where the intensity or romantic attraction you feel fluctuates; aromantic to demiromantic to alloromantic and back
Aromantic	feeling no romantic attraction regardless of gender or situation
Arospike/Acespike	feeling no attraction except in occasional bursts of intense attraction and then plummeting back to no attraction
Asexual	Person who does not experience sexual attraction. They may or may not experience emotional, physical, and/or romantic attraction. Asexuality differs from celibacy in that it is a sexual orientation, not a choice.
Asexual Flag	In August, 2010, after a process of getting the word out beyond the Asexual Visibility and Education Network (AVEN) and to non-English speaking areas, a ﬂag was chosen following a vote. The black stripe represents asexuality, the grey stripe the grey-are between sexual and asexual, the white stripe sexuality, and the purple stripe community.
Ask. Listen. Respect	Ask politely, listen to what individuals have to say [about pronouns] and respect what they tell you.
Assigned at Birth	Commonly utilized by trans* individuals, the term illustrates that the individual's sex (and subsequently gender in early life) was assigned without involving the person who's sex was being assigned.
Assumed gender	This term refers to the gender society assumes for you based on your biological sex, gender expression or gender presentation.
Astergender	a gender that feels bright and celestial
Astralgender	a gender that feels connected to space
Autigender	a gender that can only be understood in the context of being autistic
Auto-	the feeling of attraction only towards oneself
Autogender	a gender experience that is deeply personal to oneself
Axigender	when a person experiences two genders that sit on opposite ends of an axis; one being agender and the other being any other gender; these genders are experienced one at a time with no overlapping and with very short transition time.
Baby Dyke	A young lesbian or someone who is just coming out of the closet. Also know as Dyke in Training.
BDSM	(Bondage, Discipline/Domination, Submission/Sadism, and Masochism) The terms ‘sadism' and ‘masochism' refer to deriving pleasure from inflicting or receiving pain, often in a sexual context. The terms ‘bondage,' ‘submission,' ‘discipline,' and ‘domination' refer to playing with various power roles, in both sexual and social context. These practices are often misunderstood as abusive, but when practiced in a safe, sane, and consensual manner can be a part of healthy sex life.
Bear	The most common definition of a ‘bear' is a man who has facial/body hair, and a cuddly body. However, the word ‘bear' means many things to different people, even within the bear movement. Many men who do not have one or all of these characteristics define themselves as bears, making the term a very loose one. ‘Bear' is often defined as more of an attitude and a sense of comfort with natural masculinity and bodies. The International Bear Brotherhood Flag was designed in 1995 by Craig Byrnes
Bellusromantic	having interest in conventionally romantic things yet not desiring a relationship; part of the aro spectrum
berdache	A generic term used by European colonists/explorers to refer to a differently gendered or cross-gendered Native people .The term ‘berdache' is generally rejected as inappropriate and offensive. More appropriate Native terms for gender variant people will depend on the group or nation being described. See also "two-spirit."
Bi-	the feeling of attraction towards two or more genders, generally your own gender and other(s)
Bi Poly Switch	Colloquial; sometimes humorous Of or related to a person who is bisexual and polyamorous and who is a BDSM switch, capable of taking on a" dominant» or submissive role in sex. Commentary: A popular T-shirt reads "I'm a bi poly switch and I still won't sleep with you."
Bicurious	A person who identifies as gay or straight while showing some curiosity for a relationship or sexual activity with a person of a sex/gender they do not usually engage with. [Related terms: heteroflexible, homoflexible]
Bigamy	(Literally, bi two + gamos marriage) 1. A relationship in which one person is married to two spouses, regardless of the sex of those spouses. 2. Legal In most Western countries, the crime of entering in one marriage while still legally married to another person; marriage fraud. Contrast monogamy; See related polygamy, polygyny, polyandry. See related Enoch Arden Act.
Bigender	A person whose gender identity is a combination of or alternation between two genders, usually used to describe feeling "traditionally male" and "traditionally female", but does not have to. Flag designer unknown. The white represents trans* identity. The purple represents no gender. The pink represents femininity. Blue represents masculinity.
bilateral mastectomy	see "chest surgery" and "double incision"
Binding	Chest binding is a way for many trans men to curb dysphoria and is a common step in FTM transition. “Binding” refers to flattening breast tissue to create a male-appearing chest using a variety of materials and methods leading to improvements in mood and self-esteem, minimized gender dysphoria, anxiety, depression, and feeling in control of their bodies. Some FTMs and trans men don't bind at all due to comfort issues, because they may have small chests, or because they have undergone chest reconstruction surgery. Some use different methods of layering clothing to help hide their chests. Some bind only on certain occasions; some bind all the time.
Biogender	a gender that feels connected to nature in some way
Biological Sex	The objective anatomical classification of reproductive organs, chromosomes, and hormones, assigned at birth. A woman is defined as female based on her vagina, ovaried, and XX chromosomes; a man is defined by male based on his penis, testes, and XY chromosomes. An intersex person has a combination of both.
biphobia	The fear of, discrimination against, or hatred of bisexuals, which is often times related to the current binary standard. Biphobia can be seen within the LGBTQI community, as well as in general society.
Bipoly	Colloquial Of or related to a person who is both bisexual and polyamorous.
Bisexual	A person who experiences sexual, romantic, physical, and/or spiritual attraction to people of their own gender as well as other genders, not necessarily at the same time, in the same way, or to the same degree.
Bisexual Flag and Symbols	First unveiled on 12/5/98 the bisexual pride ﬂag was designed by Michael Page. This rectangular ﬂag consists of a broad magenta stripe at the top (representing same-gender attraction,) a broad stripe in blue at the bottoms (representing opposite gender attractions), and a narrower deep lavender band occupying the central ﬁfth (which represents attraction toward both genders).
Blurgender	the feeling of having more than one gender that are somehow blurred together to the point of not being able to distinguish or identify individual genders; synonymous with genderfuzz
Body Dysphoria	Discomfort experienced because of the difference between gender and your sex, role, or gender expression
Body Fluid Monogamy	The practice of limiting any activity which involves the exchange of bodily fluids, including such activities as unprotected sexual intercourse, to only one partner. Usage: Originated in the BDSM community; becoming increasingly uncommon in the BDSM and poly communities.
Boi	1. A person who was assigned female at birth who expresses or presents themselves in a culturally/stereotypically masculine, particularly boyish way. 2. One who enjoys being perceived as a young male and intentionally identifies with being a "boy" rather than a "man." 3. For gay men a boi is a gay man who is boyish or young in appearance or identity. (pronounced boy)
Borea-	having an exception to your usual orientation
Boston Marriage	Archaic A term used primarily in the 19th century for a household of two unmarried women who were financially and romantically independent. Today, it is generally presumed that many such arrangements were lesbian relationships.
bottom / catcher	A person who is said to take a more submissive role during sexual interactions. Sometimes referred to as ‘pasivo' in Latin American cultures. Also known as ‘Catcher,' which may be considered offensive by some people.
Bottom Surgery	Surgery on the genitals designed to create a body in harmony with a person's gender identity to reduce dysphoria. [Related Terms: Gender Confirming Surgery, Sexual Reassignment Surgery, Lower Surgery]
Boyflux	when one feels mostly or all male most of the time but experience fluctuating intensity of male identity
Brown Boi	A masculine of center person of color.
Bull	A muscular gay male
BunnyPomo	Someone who does NOT experience sexual attraction (or is NOT SURE if they experience sexual attraction), but has a strong preference for romantic and sensual activities (kissing, cuddling, dates, hand holding, etc.) over sexual activities when it comes to relationships.
Burst-	having spikes in attraction that fade away after a while
Burstgender	a gender that comes in intense bursts of feeling and quickly fades back to the original state
Butch	1.A person who identifies themselves as masculine, whether it be physically, mentally or emotionally 2. Sometimes used as a derogatory term for lesbians, but it can also be claimed as an affirmative identity label.
Byumasexual	A sexual orientation term for those who experienced some kind of trauma during the "awakening" of their sexual attractoin/orientation (for example: when one first starts to date or gets curious about their own sexual orientation). Due to this trauma, the concept or idea of "sexual attraction" is a very confusing subject to them. These individuals might have a basic idea of their orientation ("I know I am not straight" or "I know I am not gay") but beyond that, it is a mystery. People who identify as Byumasexual might have a history of "cycling" through different sexual orientation terms, attempting to find a term that they feel comfortable with (the "light bulb moment").This term is a more specific version of unthenalsexual. This term is NOT an excuse to not see professional help if you're experiencing negative physical and/or mental health symptoms. If this is negatively interferring with your day-to-tday life, please seek out the proper professional.Questioning is not a term these people feel comfortable with. One reason could be that it feels too "superficial". Another reason could be that they feel like questioning is a "transitioning" term.Byumasexual could easily be connected to caedosexual (believing trauma made you no longer experience sexual attraction), implasexual (Someone who feels they are never quite sure of their sexual orientation due to self doubt or anxiety), or pomosexual (believing there is no current term within the LGBT/MOGAI community that fits you, but there might be in the future).
Caelgender	a gender which shares qualities with outer space or has the aesthetic of space, stars, nebulas, etc.
Camp	May refer to effeminate behavior or ironic bad taste Gender-neutral
Candaulism	Sexual arousal from watching one's spouse have sex with or engage in sexual activity with another person. See related BDSM: «voyeurism»
Cass-	feeling utterly indifferent towards attraction and believing its not important
Cassflux	when the level of indifference towards your gender fluctuates
Cassgender	the feeling of gender is unimportant to you
Cavusgender	for people with depression; when you feel one gender when not depressed and another when depressed
Cease-	usually being allo- yet occasionally feeling a sudden loss of attraction and then returning to normal
Celibacy	the state of abstaining from marriage and sexual relations.
Cellular Family	A family of three or more adults (and optionally children) who live together or near one another, share responsibility for joint finances and/or domestic responsibilities, and consider themselves to be part of a single family. See related group marriage. Etymology: The term was coined by Deborah Anapol.
Cendgender	when your gender changes between one and its opposite
Cetero-	the feeling of attraction towards nonbinary people; replaces skolio- because "skolio" means bent or broken and implies that nonbinary people must be fixed; this is reserved for trans/nonbinary individuals because cis people were judging nonbinary people based off of presentation alone
Ceterofluid	when you are ceterogender and your feelings fluctuate between masculine, feminine, and neutral
Ceterogender	a nonbinary gender with specific masculine, feminine, or neutral feelings
Chapstick Lesbian / Soft Butch	A female homosexual whose gender identity is slightly to the femme side of neutral on the femme-butch continuum of gender presentation but whose appearance and preferences stop short of those of a "lipstick lesbian."
chest surgery/ chest reconstruction surgery/ top surgery	Surgical reconstruction to create a more male or more female appearing chest. chest surgery is the most common surgical procedure sought by FTMs. There are two basic procedures that are usually performed for FTMs: 1. Double incision/Bilateral mastectomy, or 2. Keyhole/Peri-areolar incision (see individual entries for more detail). For MTFs, chest surgery may involve breast implants, which are sometimes used to augment the amount of breast development that may have already been achieved through estrogen hormone therapy. Sometimes also referred to as "top surgery."
Chub	A very heavy gay man of any age
Circuit Queen	A circuit queen is a muscular man who is tanned and waxed. His outfit of choice is a tank top, short shorts, and a pair of high tops
Cisgender	someone who feels comfortable with the gender identity assigned to them based on their physical sex.
Cisgender Privilege	The set of privileges conferred to people who are cisgender (some of which are conferred conditionally to transgender people who are perceived to be cisgender). (Examples: having one's gender pronouns used correctly, no harassment in public restrooms, no barriers to correct name and gender marker documentation, no denial of expected access to health care, etc.)
Cishet	Someone who is both cisgender (cis) and heterosexual (het).
Cisnormativity	The assumption, in individuals or in institutions, that everyone is cissexual, and that cisgender people's identities are more normal, valid, and worthy of respect than transgender people's identities.
Cissexism	A pervasive and institutionalized system that "others" transgender people by treating their needs and identities as less important than those of cisgender people. Any attitude, action, or practice - backed by institutional power - that subjugates people because of their status as transgender.
clocked / getting read	to be detected as a person who is cross-dressed or transsexual.
Cloudgender	a gender that cannot be fully realized or seen clearly due to depersonalization/derealization disorder
Cluster Marriage	A polyamorous relationship in which two or more married couples cohabitate and exchange partners. See group marriage; See related intentional family, co-spouse, co-husband, co-wife.
Collgender	the feeling of having too many genders simultaneously to describe each one
Colorgender	a gender associated with one or more colors and the feelings, hues, emotions, and/or objects associated with that color; may be used like pinkgender, bluegender, yellowgender
Comet	Colloquial An occasional lover who passes through one's life semi-regularly, but without an expectation of continuity or a romantic relationship.
coming out/ disclosure	May refer to the process by which one accepts one's own sexuality, gender identity, or status as an intersexed person (to "come out" to oneself). May also refer to the process by which one shares one's sexuality, gender identity, or intersexed status with others. This can be a continual, life-long process for homosexual, bisexual, transgendered, and intersexed individuals. In a trans context, coming out may refer to the process by which one accepts one's own gender identity, and/or may also refer to the process by which one shares one's gender identity status with others. Keep in mind that coming out can happen in pre-, post- and non-transition stages and identities.
Commogender	when you know you aren't cisgender, but you settled with your assigned gender for the time being
Comsexual	A term to use for people who want to say "I experience sexual attraction" (so the opposite of asexual), but don't want to specify further, how they experience sexual attraction. This term can be found in the pomosexual community.
Condigender	a gender that is only felt during certain circumstances
Condom Contract / Condom Compact / Condom Commitment	A formal agreement within a relationship to confine exchange of bodily fluids and barrier-free sexual contact to the people in that relationship, each of whom has previously been screened for sexually transmitted diseases. Condom contracts may specify under what conditions a member of that group may exchange body fluids or have sexual contact without barriers with a new partner, or may specify that such contact is not permissible with any new partner.
Cross-dresser	This describes a person who wears the clothes usually associated with the "opposite "sex. This is seen as a form of gender expression. The word "transvestite" is not used much these days. And the expression "drag queen" is different, meaning a man who dresses "as a woman" for purposes of entertainment.
cross-living	Usually refers to cross-dressing full-time (also referred to as "24/7"), and living as the gender which you perceive yourself to be.
Cub	A husky gay male that is husky with a lot of body hair, is young or younger looking, Sugar cubs and muscle cubs are sub-types
Cuddle Party^TM	Trademark A social gathering of adults which encourages consensual physical affection, such as cuddling, massage, and other forms of physical expression, but which forbids overt sexual activity or sexual stimulation. Commentary: The term "Cuddle Party" has been trademarked by Reid Mihalko, who owns a business organizing such parties in many cities, which are pay-for-attendance events.
Culparomantic	feeling romantic and platonic attraction at the same time
Cuntboy	A male-to-female transgender/transsexual that has had bottom surgery.
Cupcake Party	Colloquial A gathering, usually involving only women and most often in a private residence, in which a group of people gather to explore their sexuality, discuss sex, experiment with sex toys, and so on. Etymology: The hostess of a cupcake party often provides refreshments, hence the name.
Cupio-	the feeling of having no attraction towards any gender yet still desiring a sexual or romantic relationship
Cupioflux/Kalosflux	Desiring and/or liking the idea of a certain type of relationship (sexual/romantic/etc.) but the level of attraction/desire for the relationship fluctuating.
cypionate	Short for testosterone cypionate, one of the main injectable forms of testosterone prescribed to FTMs in the United States. See also "testosterone."
Daddy	An older gentleman who is typically well off and likes to date younger men. He can be seen, for the most part, with salt and pepper hair.
Daddy Chaser	A younger guy-typically a twink-who is infatuated with older daddies.
DD/D&D	An abbreviation for drug and disease free.
Dead Name	The name given to a transgender person at birth, which they often change when they transition. It should not be used to refer to them. Use the person's chosen name instead.
Deadnaming	Calling someone by their rejected birth name
Deliciagender	from the Latin word delicia meaning "favorite", meaning the feeling of having more than one simultaneous gender yet preferring one that fits better
Demi-	not feeling attraction towards someone until a certain closeness or bond has been formed
Demiboy	Similar to bigender, someone who identifies as a demiboy experiences their gender as partly boy and partly another gender.
Demifluid	the feeling your gender being fluid throughout all the demigenders; the feeling of having multiple genders, some static and some fluid
Demiflux	the feeling of having multiple genders, some static and some fluctuating
Demigender	a gender that is partially one gender and partially another
Demigirl	Similar to bigender, someone who identifies as a demigirl experiences their gender as partly girl and partly another gender.
Demiromantic	A person who does not experience romantic attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone.
Demisexual	A person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone. It's more commonly seen in but by no means confined to romantic relationships.
Demi-smoke	(term coined by @cotton-blossom-jellyfish): A transcendental, spiritual gender roughly drifting to other genders that are unable to be foreseen and understood, shrouded in darkness within your inner visual. Elevating through mystery. Caused by a lack of inner interpretation and dark emotional states.
Demi-vapor	(term coined by @cotton-blossom-jellyfish): Continuously drifting to other genders, feeling spiritually transcendental when doing so while having a clear -slightly blurred- inner visual of your genders, transitions, and positive emotions.
Designated gender	A gender assigned at birth based on an individuals sex and/or what gender society perceives a person to be
Desinoromantic	when one does not experience full-on romantic attraction, but experiences "liking" someone instead of loving them romantically, at which point the attraction goes no further
Dickgirl	a female-to-male transgender/transsexual that has had bottom surgery.
Diesel Dyke	A Diesel Dyke is a very butch or manly lesbian, especially one who is very aggressive. In some lesbian circles Diesel Dyke refers to a very butch Big-Rig (or other heavy equipment) driving lesbian. Also known as Bulldagger.
Discrimination	Prejudice + power. It occurs when members of a more powerful social group behave unjustly or cruelly to members of a less powerful social group. Discrimination can take many forms, including both individual acts of hatred or injustice and institutional denials of privileges normally accorded to other groups. Ongoing discrimination creates a climate of oppression for the affected group.
Domestic Partner	one who lives with their beloved and/or is at least emotionally and financially connected in a supportive manner with another; can also be shortened to "partner."
Domgender	having more than one gender yet one being more dominant than the others
Don't Ask, Don't Tell / DADT	1. A relationship structure in which a person who is partnered is permitted to have additional sexual or romantic relationships on the condition that his or her partner does not know anything about those additional relationships and does not meet any of those other people. Commentary: Many people in the polyamorous community frown on don't ask, don't tell relationships, and choose not to become involved in such relationships. There are many dangers in such relationships, including the idea that a person who claims to be involved in such a relationship may simply be cheating (as the relationship often provides no mechanism by which that person's partner may be contacted to confirm that the relationship permits other relationships); the fact that many people choose DADT relationships as a way of avoiding and not dealing with emotional issues such as jealousy; and the fact that DADT relationships are built on a foundation of lack of communication within the existing relationship. 2. "Don't ask, don't tell" was the official United States policy on military service by gays, bisexuals, and lesbians, instituted by the Clinton Administration on February 28, 1994, when Department of Defense Directive 1304.26 issued on December 21, 1993, took effect, lasting until September 20, 2011.
double incision	Also called "bilateral mastectomy." A type of FTM chest surgery procedure that is effective for individuals with a medium to large amount of breast tissue. In this method, large incisions are made horizontally across each breast, usually below the nipple. The skin is then peeled back so that the mammary glands and fatty tissue can be removed with a scalpel. The muscles of the chest are not touched. Certain areas of hard-to-reach fatty tissue may also be removed via liposuction (such as areas near the armpits). Once the extraneous tissue has been removed, the excess chest skin is trimmed and the incisions closed, leaving two seams/scars just below the line of the pectoral muscles. Nipples are usually resized and grafted into place. See also "chest surgery."
Double Symbol	Each gender symbol derives from the astronomical symbol for the planet Venus and Mars. In modern science, the singular symbol for Venus is used to represent the female sex, and singular symbol for Mars is used to represent the male sex. Two interlocking female symbols (⚢) represent a lesbian or the lesbian community, and two interlocking male symbols (⚣) a gay male or the gay male community. The symbols first appeared in the 1970s.
Down Low	Typically used by men of color to describe men who identify as heterosexual, but who have sex with men. Many avoid sharing this information even if they have female sexual partners.
drab	A term often used by cross dressers to indicate wearing the clothes traditionally associated with your birth sex. A male to female cross dresser would be "in drab" if he was wearing a man's suit.
Drag	The performance of one or multiple genders theatrically.
Drag King	A person who consciously performs "masculinity," usually in a show or theatre setting, presenting an exaggerated form of masculine expression, often times done by a woman.
Drag Queen	A person who consciously performs "femininity," usually in a show or theatre setting, presenting an exaggerated form of feminine expression, often times done by a man.
Duo-	having two or more well defined orientations that you switch between
Duragender	from the Latin word dura meaning "long-lasting", meaning a subcategory of multigender in which one gender is more identifiable, long lasting, and prominent than the other genders
Dyadic	Someone who is not intersex and when their genitals, gonads, and chromosomes can all match into either a male or female category
Dyke	1.Sometimes adopted affirmatively by lesbians (not necessarily masculine ones) to refer to themselves as a reclaimed term. 2. Derogatory term referring to (often masculine) lesbians.