Have you told the people that you love that you're kinky? Why or why not? What are the pros and cons, how would you do it?
01/02/2022 kissa leads a discussion on Drop on another server.
3/11/23 Sid talks about mental domination and submission and the connection between partners
11/16/22 Sero leads a discussion on how we can maintain a long distance relationship in BDSM.
11/5/22 Nimah (Ava) and Sid talk about Being Primal
Analysising who is real, who is play, who is cyber etc., is a failure.
We call ourselves a community. Within that community we stand uneasily in the company of others of our kind.
Sometimes it is in the feelings and responses of others that we learn or relearn simple lessons. In this I have been both perpetrator and victim.
There is nothing more important than trust. It is fairly said that the first gift of the submissive is absolute trust.
Trust is the confident dependence on the character, ability, strength or truth of the individual. Trustworthiness is not transient, temporary or in selective existence.
The Training Collar represents the second collar exchanged between a Dominant and a submissive.
The Wall: The Wall is one identification of the limit that the mind and body are physically capable of processing.
Focusing on the difficulties that a Sadist faces from social implications and expectations to the risks we take on while we do what we do and how that can cause some difficulties in rationalizing doing what we do.
Negotiation, consent, and communication before, during, and after a scene.
10/26/22 Sweet Sass leads a discussion on High Protocol - the whys and wherefores and also dips into mentoring
11/2/22 Sero discusses various aspects of consent.
The act or process that reveals inherent qualities, traits, characteristics. A procedure for determining a change in condition.
There is a pervasive belief that because you are now oriented toward a different lifestyle that it is permissive to break all the rules of good conduct, ethics, morality, sexual responsibility and basic human dignity
Polygon? Polynomial? Polyphenols? Poly wanna cracker? On 10/12 at 9PM ET, Sero leads a chat on Being Polyamorous that's not just for poly people! Yes, we know that polyamory is just wrong and should be wither multiamory or polyphilia but let's just go with it on Wednesday evening!
Sero talks about Jealousy in the Life and Lovestyle of BDSM. 10/19/22
SummersKiss talks about Establishing Healthy Boundaries. 10/22/22
Every adult has gone through some form of trauma and has had varying success with healing that trauma. On 10/15/22 The Kink Shrink talks about healing and managing trauma.
To grieve is normal and natural, and as such should not be seen as an issue or a condition to be cured, no set timings, your discomfort watching someone's process is a YOU problem, not a them problem.
I will express this from my personal viewpoint. When I view myself as a whole being I consider myself to be 3 distinct parts.
The fostering of hostile malevolence sufficient to inspire a person to violate and betray that which nurtures, sustains and maintains their personal existence and the long term continued existence of their species.