Have you told the people that you love that you're kinky? Why or why not? What are the pros and cons, how would you do it?
01/02/2022 kissa leads a discussion on Drop on another server.
12/10/22 kissa discusses red flags in the lifestyle and in chosing a partner.
3/18/23 Sid explores the reasons for and possible ways for an individual to bring forth their authentic selves within the lifestyle.
3/11/23 Sid talks about mental domination and submission and the connection between partners
To be trained is to be shaped in a direction or path that is unnatural to the individual.
Tops Disease is the corruption of power.
A Dominant acts as a guardian for the life, welfare, mental and physical well being of any submissive whom they accept within their territory or life. Care of - two very significant words.
You cannot solve any relationship issue by force. A top cannot simply tell a bottom to 'accept' it, or 'get over it'. If that top does try this in a fairly short time they will be just a person living single.
The S/m lifestyle is full of titles. Ceremonial forms of address which often allude to or denote behavior as well.
The Voice, language, command structures and delivery are perhaps the least understood, most illusive and hardest to convey concepts in text form.
Focusing on the difficulties that a Sadist faces from social implications and expectations to the risks we take on while we do what we do and how that can cause some difficulties in rationalizing doing what we do.
11/9 we'll have a chit-chat about Aftercare and Drop. Because these two things are so often talked about in relation to "sweet, delicate, helpless" submissives, we're going to make sure that we also talk about, as @Sid calls them, "Those Who have no Souls", Dominants.
10/26/22 Sweet Sass leads a discussion on High Protocol - the whys and wherefores and also dips into mentoring
Qualities of a Dominant
DOMINANT, PREDOMINANT, PARAMOUNT PREPONDERANT, SOVEREIGN...superior to ALL others in power, influence or importance!
The Switch. Adding this component into understanding of the community is often similar to adding a dose of confusion or chaos.
This distinction appears muddled, misunderstood and generalized by a great number of the people that I converse with.
As to the odds of finding a dominant female...
Submissive Rebound is a reaction that occurs in most submissives at some point in their relationship with a Dominant.
If a human being at some point in their childhood becomes the focus of physical and/or sexual abuse does this then turn them into a submissive at some later point in their lives?
All submissives being created as equal or the nature of expressed submission as being of one form to the exclusion or dicardment of any variations or diversity within the nature of that expression.
Polygon? Polynomial? Polyphenols? Poly wanna cracker? On 10/12 at 9PM ET, Sero leads a chat on Being Polyamorous that's not just for poly people! Yes, we know that polyamory is just wrong and should be wither multiamory or polyphilia but let's just go with it on Wednesday evening!
Sero talks about Jealousy in the Life and Lovestyle of BDSM. 10/19/22
Look, relationships don't always work out, and that is shit.