I am a kinky neuroscientist who has been having fun in the BDSM for a few decades. I like to debate and do my best to do it in a polite, rational way. I like the outdoors and all kind of games, particularly those of the intellectual and kinky kind. I'm also a writer of erotica and, hopefully soon, popular science. I have written four novels in Spanish and I'm about to finish translating to English the first one.
Things in the scene are not as simple as going into sub space and come out of it a happier person
Among the many problems that can happen in a scene, panic attacks can be a serious one, especially if the Top doesn't know how to handle them.
It seems that when we reach a certain degree of intimacy we start allowing ourselves some behaviors that bring conflict and emotional damage. Then, perhaps what we should do is to learn to recognize those behaviors and ways to avoid them.
While sadomasochism can be justified by the ability of pain to enhance pleasure and the happiness brought by the endorphin high, the Dominance/submission (D/s) side of the BDSM equation is not so easily explained
Depending of the extent of the damage, inflammation can last for a while after the spanking is over. This produces the nice afterglow sensation when you get sent to the corner.
What makes a good top and bottom?
Therefore, I can give you some pointers on how to get to sub space, but it is ultimately up to each Top and bottom to find out what works for them.
Systematizing the dynamics of a Dominance/submission (D/s) relationship.
The ability of the BDSM scene in general, and pain in particular, to produce altered states of consciousness is extremely important.
The issue of endorphin release is enormously complicated.
Buttplugs are very effective ways to put somebody into submissive mind space.
One of the most fascinating aspects of BDSM is its ability to induce altered states of consciousness.