Penname: KinkyInTheMiddle [Contact] Real name:
Member Since: 02/12/2020
Membership status: Member
Bio:

Articles posted with KinkyInTheMiddle as co-author were orginally posted on that site.


Kinky In The Middle was a website devoted to the lives of little, middles, and their bigs. The owners focused on the DD/lg dynamic as well as their own polyamory.


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About Illiana
Hiya! I'm Illiana Cole. I am Drake's and Dan's 38-year-old sassy, southern middle/little. I have been moving and grooving in the worlds of BDSM and polyamory since 1998. Yes, that long! I can't say that it's all been good. Some of it has been a downright '80s horror movie! But through it all, I have learned and grown a lot. I hope to help others on this path by putting those lessons out into the world.

I am also a complete geek. When I am not running the blog or acting as our family's Home Executive, I can be found playing Pathfinder or The Sims 4, watching Doctor Who (I can't get enough River Song, y'all!), doing any craft that involves a needle or a hook, and/or cuddling one of my three crazy dogs! You can contact me here on Kinky In The Middle, on Twitter as @kinkymiddle, on Fetlife, on Facebook, or by email.
 
About Drake
Greetings, I am Drake Addams. I am Illiana’s Dragon, or Draggy, which is our term for me as her Daddy Dom. I am a 31-year-old switch. I have been dabbling in BDSM for about 10 years as a submissive, and I am still relatively new to really getting into D/s as a lifestyle and doing it properly. So, I am learning right along with all of you! My hope with this blog is to let others see a different view of this lifestyle and, maybe, let them know they are not alone in this great big sea.

When I am not blogging or toying with Illiana, I play video games and tabletop RPGs (mostly Pathfinder currently). I can be found either in front of my computer or reading a book on my Kindle most of the time. Currently, I am reachable here on Kinky In The Middle or Fetlife.



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Stories by KinkyInTheMiddle
Summary:

Considering 24/7 dynamics


Categories: The Lifestyle > 24/7
Characters: None
Content Notes: None
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1021 Read Count: 241
[Report This] Published: 02/23/2020 Updated: 10/09/2022
Summary:

The challenges and rewards of D/s at a distance.


Categories: The Lifestyle > YOU in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: D/s-M/s
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1666 Read Count: 311
[Report This] Published: 02/25/2020 Updated: 07/10/2021
Summary:

The reality and effects of space for Doms and subs.


Categories: How-To > Space and Drop
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1102 Read Count: 386
[Report This] Published: 02/23/2020 Updated: 07/10/2021
Summary:

Getting into your community


Categories: The Lifestyle > YOU in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: General
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1379 Read Count: 269
[Report This] Published: 02/25/2020 Updated: 07/10/2021
Summary:

Not all D/s is about sex.


Categories: The Lifestyle > The Basics
Characters: None
Content Notes: D/s-M/s
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 966 Read Count: 297
[Report This] Published: 02/25/2020 Updated: 07/10/2021
Summary:

When real life interferes with D/s


Categories: The Lifestyle > YOU in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: D/s-M/s
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1147 Read Count: 283
[Report This] Published: 02/25/2020 Updated: 07/10/2021
Summary:

Wizarding rules as applied to D/s


Categories: The Lifestyle > Philosophy
Characters: None
Content Notes: Philosophy
Series: None
Chapters: 2 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 4895 Read Count: 760
[Report This] Published: 02/19/2020 Updated: 06/26/2021
Summary:

Sexual availability in D/s dynamics.


Categories: The Lifestyle > YOU in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: General
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1033 Read Count: 330
[Report This] Published: 02/23/2020 Updated: 06/26/2021
Summary:

Handling conflict in D/s


Categories: The Lifestyle > The Basics
Characters: None
Content Notes: None
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1298 Read Count: 256
[Report This] Published: 02/20/2020 Updated: 06/26/2021
Summary:

This is your life; give your precious commodities your way!


Categories: The Lifestyle > YOU in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: Philosophy
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1341 Read Count: 304
[Report This] Published: 02/12/2020 Updated: 06/26/2021
Summary:

Using safewords and gestures


Categories: How-To > Safe Words
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 919 Read Count: 259
[Report This] Published: 02/20/2020 Updated: 06/26/2021
Summary:

The art of not being a bull in the D/s china shop.


Categories: Dominance
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1416 Read Count: 309
[Report This] Published: 02/13/2020 Updated: 06/26/2021
Summary:

Addressing drop in Doms and subs


Categories: How-To > Space and Drop
Characters: None
Content Notes: Impact
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1096 Read Count: 251
[Report This] Published: 02/19/2020 Updated: 06/26/2021
Summary:

Let's talk boundaries and limits


Categories: The Lifestyle > YOU in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: General
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1046 Read Count: 293
[Report This] Published: 02/20/2020 Updated: 06/26/2021
Summary:

A different view. D/s, polyamory, and an exit plan.


Categories: The Lifestyle > YOU in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: None
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1410 Read Count: 308
[Report This] Published: 02/20/2020 Updated: 08/14/2020
Summary:

There is more to dominance to getting your way


Categories: Dominance
Characters: None
Content Notes: D/s-M/s
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1424 Read Count: 473
[Report This] Published: 02/19/2020 Updated: 08/14/2020
Summary:

How to move forward after a dynamic ends.


Categories: The Lifestyle > YOU in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: General
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 2357 Read Count: 452
[Report This] Published: 02/19/2020 Updated: 08/14/2020
Dominance by Illiana Cole, KinkyInTheMiddle Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

What does it mean to me


Categories: Dominance
Characters: None
Content Notes: D/s-M/s
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1294 Read Count: 418
[Report This] Published: 02/20/2020 Updated: 08/14/2020
Summary:

Orgasm control and its rewards.


Categories: How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Sex: Tab A in Slots B, C, and D
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1124 Read Count: 8
[Report This] Published: 02/23/2020 Updated: 08/14/2020
Edge Play by THE_ANN, KinkyInTheMiddle Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

Edge play within the BDSM lifestyle


Categories: How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Other Interesting Play
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1073 Read Count: 370
[Report This] Published: 02/19/2020 Updated: 08/14/2020
Summary:

A view from both sides of the slash


Categories: The Lifestyle > The Basics
Characters: None
Content Notes: General
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1630 Read Count: 374
[Report This] Published: 02/20/2020 Updated: 08/14/2020
D/s is a Journey by Sinistar , KinkyInTheMiddle Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

The importance of learning to be a Dom.


Categories: Dominance
Characters: None
Content Notes: None
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1435 Read Count: 474
[Report This] Published: 02/12/2020 Updated: 08/14/2020
Skin Deep by THE_ANN, KinkyInTheMiddle Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

The art of edge play


Categories: How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Other Interesting Play
Characters: None
Content Notes: Edge
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1448 Read Count: 471
[Report This] Published: 02/19/2020 Updated: 06/04/2020
Summary:

Finding rituals and tasks in D/s dynamics


Categories: The Lifestyle > YOU in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: General
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1092 Read Count: 261
[Report This] Published: 02/20/2020 Updated: 06/04/2020
Dance with Me by sonnet, KinkyInTheMiddle Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

Leading and following on the D/s path


Categories: The Lifestyle > Philosophy
Characters: None
Content Notes: D/s-M/s
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1427 Read Count: 449
[Report This] Published: 02/19/2020 Updated: 06/04/2020
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