My name is Sadie Bonfils (Aka Sensuous Sadie) and I am the author of several books, the latest being Spiritual Transformation through BDSM; Stories and Submissions from Fellow Travelers. You can read more about them here. I'm the founder and leader (1999-2001) of Rose & Thorn, Vermont's first BDSM group. More of my Vita here. I live in northern Vermont and have a great passion for its beautiful Green Mountains. I am an avid portrait photographer, work out religiously, and spoil my cat Spencer who is not remotely submissive. I am a plus-sized beauty in great shape, and proud of it. Why yes, I'm single!
My Gender Neutral Writing Policy
My goal is to show respect to both Dominants and Submissives through the form of my writing as well as the content. I also feel that using correct formal English is critical to broader acceptance of our lifestyle.
As a result, I capitalize both Dominant and Submissive, because I believe they are equal partners in the D/s relationship – similar to a yin yang. In addition, I capitalize both Dominant and Submissive when referring to a person, but not when it's an adjective such as in "she was acting dominant." In all cases, I use the gender-neutral "Dominant" instead of Dom, Domme, or Dom/me. I use gender neutral words like "they" instead of the common usage of "He" for Masters/Dominants and "She" for Slaves/Submissives.
When I exchanged emails with Sadie in early 2003, she gave me carte blanche to her writing. I took shameless advantag of her generosity for years. I recently learned that the lovely, generous Sadie died in 2010 and, though I had not exchanged words with her for several years, I miss her. She was wise, witty, and so kind. The Masque would not be what it is without her words and I am deeply grateful to her. ~ BG
Each of Sadie's pieces contains her email address as part of her copyright notice. Emailing her is useless. Please contact BG for further information.