Penname: Sensuous Sadie [Contact] Real name:
Member Since: 07/10/2014
Membership status: Member
Bio:

My name is Sadie Bonfils (Aka Sensuous Sadie) and I am the author of several books, the latest being Spiritual Transformation through BDSM; Stories and Submissions from Fellow Travelers. You can read more about them here. I'm the founder and leader (1999-2001) of Rose & Thorn, Vermont's first BDSM group. More of my Vita here. I live in northern Vermont and have a great passion for its beautiful Green Mountains. I am an avid portrait photographer, work out religiously, and spoil my cat Spencer who is not remotely submissive. I am a plus-sized beauty in great shape, and proud of it. Why yes, I'm single!


My Gender Neutral Writing Policy


My goal is to show respect to both Dominants and Submissives through the form of my writing as well as the content. I also feel that using correct formal English is critical to broader acceptance of our lifestyle.


As a result, I capitalize both Dominant and Submissive, because I believe they are equal partners in the D/s relationship – similar to a yin yang. In addition, I capitalize both Dominant and Submissive when referring to a person, but not when it's an adjective such as in "she was acting dominant." In all cases, I use the gender-neutral "Dominant" instead of Dom, Domme, or Dom/me. I use gender neutral words like "they" instead of the common usage of "He" for Masters/Dominants and "She" for Slaves/Submissives.


 


When I exchanged emails with Sadie in early 2003, she gave me carte blanche to her writing. I took shameless advantag of her generosity for years. I recently learned that the lovely, generous Sadie died in 2010 and, though I had not exchanged words with her for several years, I miss her. She was wise, witty, and so kind. The Masque would not be what it is without her words and I am deeply grateful to her. ~ BG


Each of Sadie's pieces contains her email address as part of her copyright notice. Emailing her is useless. Please contact BG for further information.



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Stories by Sensuous Sadie
Summary:

A column from 1996, musing on new Dominants vs. the more experienced


Categories: The Lifestyle > Finding a Partner
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners, General
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1378 Read Count: 757
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/21/2014
Fashion and the Scene by Sensuous Sadie Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

Fetish wear: mandatory, on the cheap, and fun stuff


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners, General
Series: None
Chapters: 3 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 3795 Read Count: 4036
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/21/2014
Summary:

The vanilla world isn't aways tasty and mild to the those involved in BDSM.


Categories: The Lifestyle > The Basics
Characters: None
Content Notes: None
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: No Word count: 1452 Read Count: 813
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/21/2014
Summary:

The spiritual side of submission isn't always thinder and ligtening


Categories: Submission
Characters: None
Content Notes: Lifestyle Info
Series: My Travels with Griffin
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1433 Read Count: 704
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/21/2014
Summary:

Defining spiritual BDSM through experience


Categories: The Lifestyle > Philosophy
Characters: None
Content Notes: Philosophy
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 3447 Read Count: 840
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/21/2014
Summary:

Part one: The BDSM Cyber Relationship - Commentary from an Ex Real-Time Elitist


Categories: Online D/s > Getting It On-Line
Characters: None
Content Notes: Online
Series: The BDSM Cyber Relationship – Commentary from an Ex Real-Time Elitist
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1600 Read Count: 1092
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/21/2014
Summary:

Part two: Cyber Relationships - Commentary from an Ex Real-Time Elitist


Categories: Online D/s > Getting It On-Line
Characters: None
Content Notes: Online
Series: The BDSM Cyber Relationship – Commentary from an Ex Real-Time Elitist
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 880 Read Count: 775
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/21/2014
Summary:

The BDSM Cyber Relationship - Commentary from an Ex Real-Time Elitist Part III


Categories: Online D/s > Getting It On-Line
Characters: None
Content Notes: Online
Series: The BDSM Cyber Relationship – Commentary from an Ex Real-Time Elitist
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 460 Read Count: 699
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/21/2014
Summary:

Part three: Auto Erotica: Exploring BDSM without a Partner


Categories: How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Auto Erotica
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To
Series: Auto Erotica: Exploring BDSM without a Partner
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 545 Read Count: 1075
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/21/2014
Self-inflicted BDSM by Sensuous Sadie Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

Part 1: Auto Erotica: Exploring BDSM without a Partner


Categories: How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Auto Erotica
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To
Series: Auto Erotica: Exploring BDSM without a Partner
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1946 Read Count: 1554
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/21/2014
Summary:

Part four: Part four: Auto Erotica: Exploring BDSM without a Partner


Categories: How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Auto Erotica
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To
Series: Auto Erotica: Exploring BDSM without a Partner
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 708 Read Count: 991
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/21/2014
Summary:

Part two: Auto Erotica: Exploring BDSM without a Partner


Categories: How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Auto Erotica
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To
Series: Auto Erotica: Exploring BDSM without a Partner
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 711 Read Count: 1049
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/21/2014
Summary:

Despite being a whore in the bedroom, I am a lady in the parlor and I expect my men to be gentlemen. It's a rare and maybe even freaky expectation in these days, but one that shows respect not only for me, but for them.


Categories: Submission, The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: General
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1391 Read Count: 918
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/21/2014
Summary:

This is Part 4 in the column series Where Do I Start? for novices to the BDSM scene


Categories: Dominance, The Lifestyle > The Basics
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners
Series: Where Do I Start? for novices to the BDSM scene
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1907 Read Count: 1095
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/21/2014
Summary:

This is Part 3 in the column series Where Do I Start? for novices to the BDSM scene


Categories: Dominance, The Lifestyle > The Basics
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners
Series: Where Do I Start? for novices to the BDSM scene
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 992 Read Count: 863
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/21/2014
Summary:

Part one in the Getting Started in the BDSM scene series


Categories: The Lifestyle > The Basics
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners
Series: Where Do I Start? for novices to the BDSM scene
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 773 Read Count: 725
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/21/2014
Summary:

This is Part 2 in the column series Where Do I Start? for novices to the BDSM scene


Categories: The Lifestyle > The Basics
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners
Series: Where Do I Start? for novices to the BDSM scene
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1306 Read Count: 760
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/21/2014
Summary:

Differing philosophies on Topping and using a safeword


Categories: How-To > Before You Begin
Characters: None
Content Notes: Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 755 Read Count: 952
[Report This] Published: 07/20/2014 Updated: 07/21/2014
Summary:

Please stop posting photos of your boy bits. They get tiresome.


Categories: Online D/s > Protocol
Characters: None
Content Notes: General, Online
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 731 Read Count: 3
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/21/2014
Summary:

Please be careful about outing yourself, there can be serious consequences.


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1769 Read Count: 1001
[Report This] Published: 07/20/2014 Updated: 07/21/2014
Summary:

Emotions in the scene


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners, General
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1198 Read Count: 1207
[Report This] Published: 07/20/2014 Updated: 07/21/2014
Summary:

Hypocrisy in the world of sex and intimacy


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: General
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1015 Read Count: 1030
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/21/2014
Summary:

The history of high protocol and why it may, or may not, be important - even if it's important stuff to know.


Categories: The Lifestyle > The Basics
Characters: None
Content Notes: Protocol
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1362 Read Count: 941
[Report This] Published: 07/18/2014 Updated: 07/18/2014
Summary:

Chosing a name in the scene


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1360 Read Count: 1046
[Report This] Published: 07/18/2014 Updated: 07/18/2014
Summary:

Beginners are told a lot of lies. Here's a short, non-complete list.


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: Lifestyle Info
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1529 Read Count: 1080
[Report This] Published: 07/18/2014 Updated: 07/18/2014
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