Penname: Jay Wiseman [Contact] Real name:
Member Since: 07/10/2014
Membership status: Member
Bio:

Jay Wiseman is is an extremely well known speaker and author in the BDSM world, and noteably the author of "SM 101: A Realistic Introduction." He spends a great deal of time discussing safety, both physical and mental in the BDSM scene. His work is published by Greenery Press (www.greenerypress.com.) Some of his work is located on his first website, Submissive Women Kvetch (http://members.aol.com/oldrope/)



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Stories by Jay Wiseman
Summary:

Melanoma is an increasingly common form of life-threatening cancer, usually found on the skin, and known for its early and rapid tendency to spread to other organs. Melanoma is frequently found on the back -- a location often whipped during SM play. The back is also a location not easy for a person to examine themselves. Studies have shown that manipulation of a melanoma (and a whip stroke, spank, or other type of blow would, obviously, be a form of "manipulation") definitely increases the number of cancer cells that break off and begin to spread to other parts of the body. It is therefore essential that SM practitioners know how to spot possible melanomas, both on themselves and on their partners, to avoid whipping or otherwise disturbing melanomas, and to  receive early, definitive medical diagnosis and treatment.     


Categories: How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Hitting Other People
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To, Impact, Lifestyle Info, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1991 Read Count: 57
[Report This] Published: 05/20/2018 Updated: 05/27/2018
How to handle a seizure by Jay Wiseman Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

This article will deal primarily with a very common and dramatic type of seizure often called the grand mal seizure, both in vanilla and BDSM settings. 


Categories: How-To > Non-Kinky Things
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners, General, Lifestyle Info, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 6148 Read Count: 62
[Report This] Published: 05/20/2018 Updated: 05/27/2018
Summary:

Negotiating the scene.


Categories: How-To > Checklists & Negotiation
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 2379 Read Count: 1085
[Report This] Published: 03/21/2015 Updated: 03/22/2015
Summary:

Rules for a little game


Categories: How-To > Non-Kinky Things
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1369 Read Count: 1083
[Report This] Published: 03/22/2015 Updated: 03/22/2015
Summary:

(Version 1.4, written 8/14/03) What to expect at a munch, and some dos and do nots to get around with other lifestylers.


Categories: How-To > A Trip to the Dungeon
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 3624 Read Count: 969
[Report This] Published: 12/22/2014 Updated: 12/22/2014
Summary:

What it is and safey hints


Categories: How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Bathroom Business
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 583 Read Count: 11
[Report This] Published: 07/22/2014 Updated: 07/22/2014
The Legalities of Consent by Jay Wiseman Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

But what is consent, exactly? How is consent defined from a legal point of view?


Categories: The Lifestyle > The Basics
Characters: None
Content Notes: General
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1191 Read Count: 1124
[Report This] Published: 07/22/2014 Updated: 07/22/2014
Summary:

You're a woman, you're heterosexual, and you keep having strange, disturbing, recurring, and intense fantasies of a powerful, masterful man having his way with you. Before you get busy, read this.


Categories: Submission
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 4531 Read Count: 50
[Report This] Published: 07/22/2014 Updated: 07/22/2014
Summary:

DM's are mainly there to ensure that the party rules are complied with and to otherwise create a safe space for the attendees. However, DMs are also the delegates of the host, and they both can and should assist the attendees as possible in enjoying the party


Categories: How-To > A Trip to the Dungeon
Characters: None
Content Notes: General
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1127 Read Count: 1372
[Report This] Published: 07/22/2014 Updated: 07/22/2014
Old Guard Essay # 3 by Jay Wiseman Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

On the dangers of secret society stories.


Categories: The Lifestyle > BDSM History
Characters: None
Content Notes: Philosophy
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1043 Read Count: 1653
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/22/2014
Old Guard Essay # 2 by Jay Wiseman Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

In regards to ancient "Houses" of D/s ad BDSM.


Categories: The Lifestyle > BDSM History
Characters: None
Content Notes: Philosophy
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1248 Read Count: 958
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/22/2014
Summary:

"To serve" sems to be a goal of most submissives, but what does it really mean?


Categories: Submission
Characters: None
Content Notes: D/s-M/s
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 734 Read Count: 1046
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/22/2014
Essay on Self-Bondage by Jay Wiseman Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

Being in highly restrictive bondage and completely alone certainly seems to be the number-one killer of sadomasochists.


Categories: How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Auto Erotica, How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Getting Knotty
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 584 Read Count: 1994
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/22/2014
Summary:

A quick, safe help t get  suspended person to the ground.


Categories: How-To > Equipment > Suspension
Characters: None
Content Notes: Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 594 Read Count: 1461
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/22/2014
Commotio Cordis and SM Play by Jay Wiseman Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

Both SM players and party givers should be aware that the risk of such a cardiac arrest happening as a result of a blow to the bottom's chest is low but not non-existent


Categories: How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Hitting Other People
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 2062 Read Count: 1076
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/22/2014
Summary:

This is the basic tip sheet we hand out when we give talks to groups such as college classes.


Categories: How-To > Before You Begin
Characters: None
Content Notes: Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 931 Read Count: 1363
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/22/2014
Summary:

Any "Old Guard" which existed at the time did not widely see itself as such. Instead, they were more like, as the song lyric goes "just a bunch of people, doin' the best they could."


Categories: The Lifestyle > BDSM History
Characters: None
Content Notes: General, Philosophy
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 2244 Read Count: 1459
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/22/2014
Summary:

There are some steps a non-traditional couple (such as Master/slave) can take short of getting married to improve their legal standing. This article lists some of them.


Categories: The Lifestyle > 24/7 Relationships
Characters: None
Content Notes: General, Lifestyle Info
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 744 Read Count: 994
[Report This] Published: 07/14/2014 Updated: 07/14/2014
Summary:

Doing dangerous things safely. Have a clue and have a care in how to solve invitable safety issues.


Categories: How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 3069 Read Count: 822
[Report This] Published: 07/13/2014 Updated: 07/13/2014
Summary:

Breath Control Play is DANGEROUS. Read this.


Categories: How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Breath Control
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 2480 Read Count: 1114
[Report This] Published: 07/12/2014 Updated: 07/12/2014
On Safety by Jay Wiseman Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

Techniques used in evaluating risk and risk management


Categories: How-To > Before You Begin
Characters: None
Content Notes: Safety, SSC/RACK
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1616 Read Count: 1329
[Report This] Published: 07/11/2014 Updated: 07/11/2014
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