Aftercare for Tops and bottoms and the conditions both are offered and accepted...
Where to start?
Where to begin.
Sex, philosophy, and getting around the BDSM community
The art, science, and heart of control.
The how and why of yielding and the soul of surrender.
How to safely do that thing that sounds fun and kinky.
About Norman's Chronicles of Counter Earth.
The curious ways of D/s in internet based relationships.
Stories, art, and poetry shared by our members.
Through a door in the Courtesan's palazzo Attic, is a rare rooftop garden in Venice. High walls prevent the city's carnevale patrons from viewing the flowers gracing the hidden bounty of the lush garden, but those that dare to visit the Courtesan's home are always welcome to wander the tiny paths and revel in the beauty of every flower and thorn. In The Garden, guests learn and share the ideas and realities of pain mixed with pleasure and a moment or lifetime of consensual service.
The elements of power exchange first engage the concept of human's personal power. We are born with this power, developing it as we mature, and use it to function in daily life. We use it to make decisions about our personal lives, business, and interactions with others; it is the element of control that we, have over our lives and everything surrounding us. In BDSM and in a D/s relationship, some or all of one individual's (the submissive or slave's) personal power is voluntarily given, through negotiation, to another person (the Dominant), in exchange for the fulfillment of certain requirements. In a scene, the bottom yields control or power to the Top through and for the same means. "The depth of power yielded by the submissive is equal to the level of responsibility assumed by the dominant." 1
Many myths surrounding BDSM and Domination and submission. One long-lived myth that one party is being abused by someone in some kind of authority. The Garden and the majority of lifestyle participants do not espouse or condone abuse in any way and insist that every journey, activity and relationship be safe, sane, and consensual in every way. We reject bullies and abusers. Other myths include the idea that every interaction involves "whips and chains" and involve "masters and slaves". This is far from the truth, yet very close to it. While a certain amount of bondage and erotic pain may be involved in the sensual aspect of a Dominant/submissive relationship, it is not always included in the choices made by a couple; they alone decide on what happens in their personal dynamic. Also, not all bottoms are submissive, not all submissives are slaves, just as not every top is Dominant, and not every Dominant is a Master. The couple decides on the depth of the power exchange. As in relationships that do not include BDSM, the couple alone decides on the rules of the relationship and every couple is different. "There is no right or wrong way to do BDSM."2 Join us in reading and sharing our thoughts through our archived writing, forums, and support pages. Ask questions, and with us, learn about how and why we do what we do but please remember that while learning and starting online can be wonderful, one on one, offline experience is the best, most fulfilling teacher.
1 Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism, Miller and Devon, Mystic Rose Books,1995, p. 235
2 The Loving Dominant, John Warren, ed.2, Greenery Press, 2000. p. 15
I have shuffled a few categories up to be a bit more precise. I moved things around in Dominance, Submission, and How-To. Please explore and let me know if they make sense.
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Knots are a skill taught at every level of scouting. The Knot Master Program is designed to provide each scout an opportunity to learn essential knots as well as other fun and useful knots that you will use for the rest of your life. cheerfully...
A visual aid for tying knots, cheerfully stolen from the Boy Scouts of America.
This is Part 4 in the column series Where Do I Start? for novices to the BDSM scene
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The effects of different toys and tools graded by sting, burn, and marking.
A chart showing impact play implements, pain level, resulting burn, and marks
A discussion on the different types of spankings
This hottest colors in the spanking world, collected in the new Spanktone Book.
An implement tear-off sheet for submissives to request spankings.
Everything you need to start playing with your bottom's bottom.