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A submissive has the right to trust their Dominant, and to have that trust based...
Through a door in the Courtesanís palazzo Attic, is a rare rooftop garden in Venice. High walls prevent the cityís carnevale patrons from viewing the flowers gracing the hidden bounty of the lush garden, but those that dare to visit the Courtesanís home are always welcome to wander the tiny paths and revel in the beauty of every flower and thorn. In The Garden, guests learn and share the ideas and realities of pain mixed with pleasure and a moment or lifetime of consensual service.
The elements of power exchange first engage the concept of humanís personal power. We are born with this power, developing it as we mature, and use it to function in daily life. We use it to make decisions about our personal lives, business, and interactions with others; it is the element of control that we, have over our lives and everything surrounding us. In BDSM and in a D/s relationship, some or all of one individualís (the submissive or slaveís) personal power is voluntarily given, through negotiation, to another person (the Dominant), in exchange for the fulfillment of certain requirements. In a scene, the bottom yields control or power to the Top through and for the same means. "The depth of power yielded by the submissive is equal to the level of responsibility assumed by the dominant." 1
Many myths surrounding BDSM and Domination and submission. One long-lived myth that one party is being abused by someone in some kind of authority. The Garden and the majority of lifestyle participants do not espouse or condone abuse in any way and insist that every journey, activity and relationship be safe, sane, and consensual in every way. We reject bullies and abusers. Other myths include the idea that every interaction involves "whips and chains" and involve "masters and slaves". This is far from the truth, yet very close to it. While a certain amount of bondage and erotic pain may be involved in the sensual aspect of a Dominant/submissive relationship, it is not always included in the choices made by a couple; they alone decide on what happens in their personal dynamic. Also, not all bottoms are submissive, not all submissives are slaves, just as not every top is Dominant, and not every Dominant is a Master. The couple decides on the depth of the power exchange. As in relationships that do not include BDSM, the couple alone decides on the rules of the relationship and every couple is different. "There is no right or wrong way to do BDSM."2 Join us in reading and sharing our thoughts through our archived writing, forums, and support pages. Ask questions, and with us, learn about how and why we do what we do but please remember that while learning and starting online can be wonderful, one on one, offline experience is the best, most fulfilling teacher.
1 Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism, Miller and Devon, Mystic Rose Books,1995, p. 235
2 The Loving Dominant, John Warren, ed.2, Greenery Press, 2000. p. 15
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11/9/17 Congratulations to the authors of our Discovery of Witches prompt contest! They all wrote great stories. Our winner is Fred Stephens, author of Under the Samhain Moon! Fred wins a bunch of signed novels. A huge thank you to Fred, andone, CaughtInTheQuiet, and Pars01 for sending wonderful stories! Thank you to everyone that took the time to read and vote. Be sure to catch A Discovery of Witches...
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This text has been prepared by an M.D. with a personal and professional interest in D/s. It covers topics such as safer sex, preventing and treating injury, and psychological safety. It is offered freely to the D/s community in the hopes of assisting...
Many parents have questions about how and when to inform their children about their erotic power exchange emotions.
When applied with care and knowledge, impulses such as pain, stress, fear and humiliation - in the right context - can and will create a chain reaction or hormonal rush
You are either married, living together or have been long-time companions in some other form of relationship. Suddenly, you start to develop erotic power exchange emotions and fantasies. Or your partner does. Now what?
Although discriminatory legislation sometimes likes to let you believe otherwise, there are fundamental differences between erotic power exchange and domestic violence (abuse). Erotic power exchange should always be based on the VICSS-concept. Anything...
This section of the professional information, deals with the tension between law enforcement and consensual erotic power exchange.
Since erotic power exchange is attracting more interest in society, it is only logical the phenomena gets increased media coverage. In addition, the current trend - especially in audiovisual media - to try and cover more eroticism in general contributes...
Basic information about BDSM for legal and law inforcement in the liht of recent publicity and opening viewpoints concerning BDSM.
Is a safeword really a good safety measure? And another question: how safe is a safeword? And finally: isn't the BDSM community just a bunch of parrots, all repeating the same dogmas over and over again?
Not everything you find on the Internet, when looking for safety advice, is good information. Much of it in fact forms part of very persistent urban legends. Here is a simple list of first line safety issues: the myth as well as the facts.
The primal lifestyle or sexual preference has one unified interpretation, it is the decision to focus or exist in a way that is primal, releasing oneself from all things that are not part of a person's core self.
I think what's more important than a "new and improved" flashy label on the product, it's more important to read the ingredients carefully. You cant always tell by the title what you're going to wind up with inside.
How many times do we read or hear of people in long term D/s relationships saying that "there's no D/s anymore" "He doesn't Dominate me anymore" "she doesn't submit as readily as she used to" "life gets in the way" etc etc....
The word mentor gets brought up from time to time, and i have been thinking lately about what a mentor is, and what sort of role should a mentor play in someone's life