DM's are mainly there to ensure that the party rules are complied with and to otherwise create a safe space for the attendees. However, DMs are also the delegates of the host, and they both can and should assist the attendees as possible in enjoying the party
The vanilla world isn't aways tasty and mild to the those involved in BDSM.
Hurting people for fun, physically and mentally
What would it be like to have no limits, no area where I was still in control?
There are two different kinds of control, control over the bottom line (the ultimate), and control over a particular sphere of influence. Being ultimately in control means that the Submissive can always use his safeword and stop the action; they have veto power.
Going slow in the lifesyle when every emotion tells us to rush headfirst into bliss
Exploring the value of reading as a part of a BDSM education
Saving money on fashion, toys, dating and events
Submission in styles in different mindsets and places
It's not just any blowjob, it's a very, very good blowjob.
Looking for a partner
How does a feminist surrender herself to another?
Topping from the Bottom explained through analogy
The meaning and uses of a safeword
Why on earth would a man want to wear a chastity belt?
Information about using electrical toys in advanced BDSM play, and some of the risks involved.
Having worn this style of chastity belt for quite a while now, I have written down answers to some of the most frequent questions I'm asked.
comparing and contrasting the Walter Goethals and Access Denied designs.
An allegory of training
Getting around the Community with fewer Battles.
The use of "slut" by Goreans and the duties of a kajira in embracing the word.
The role, position, and mindset of the switch in BDSM
drawing: Venus Bound
An allegory
A Lady splits with her beloved submissive