The first terms of my scene negotiations. This is what I can offer, and what I need you to give me. If these preliminary terms cannot be met, then we have nothing further to talk about.
One couple's opinon on the difference between discipline versus punishment.
I wish someone had told me this stuff before my first trip to a dungeon. But no, I had to learn the hard way! Now maybe some of you don't.
Wanting to belong to the BDSM community often makes newbies forget about protecting themselves, first.
How do I tell the difference between someone who really wants to help me, and someone who is a predator, an exploiter, someone who just wants to take advantage of me?"
Knowing the difference between the real deal and a poseur so you can keep safe.
An introduction to Gor and online forums where Goreans meet and share ideas.
(Version 1.4, written 8/14/03) What to expect at a munch, and some dos and do nots to get around with other lifestylers.
A few notes about rope for beginners
A place to begin learning.
About switches and the sometimes hassle they get.
What is the symbol, what it's not, and the uses.
In fifteen years as a lifestyle participant, i've learned an enormous amount of lessons. This is a listing of the ten that are paramount for me and, hopefully, for O/others as well.
A tongue-in-cheek narrative when your wife wants to be a slave
Expecting everything to be dream-like and perfect?
D/s & BDSM Philosophy and Theory
A not-quite tongue-in-cheek manual for Dominants and Masters.
A submissive attends his Lady as she readies Herself.
she greets him in the garden
But what is consent, exactly? How is consent defined from a legal point of view?
DM's are mainly there to ensure that the party rules are complied with and to otherwise create a safe space for the attendees. However, DMs are also the delegates of the host, and they both can and should assist the attendees as possible in enjoying the party
On the dangers of secret society stories.
In regards to ancient "Houses" of D/s ad BDSM.
"To serve" sems to be a goal of most submissives, but what does it really mean?
Being in highly restrictive bondage and completely alone certainly seems to be the number-one killer of sadomasochists.