Stories
Fostering Dominants by UnrulyNerdGirl Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

We need to start supporting, fostering, being a patron of Dominants because they are so cynical that they can't recognize true submission any more and some tips on how to do so.


Categories: Dominance, Submission, The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: None
Series: None
Chapters: 2 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 2605 Read Count: 673
[Report This] Published: 05/28/2017 Updated: 05/28/2017
Summary:

My most cited piece. This was an article I wrote in protest against some of the ugliness, visciousness and and stupidity I started seeing in the DC scene in the wake of the Black Rose Tenth Anniversary Celebration. Little did I know how universal the problems were in the community at large.....    


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To, Lifestyle Info
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 6118 Read Count: 289
[Report This] Published: 05/25/2016 Updated: 06/04/2016
Summary:

Communication techniques for use during play    


Categories: How-To > Before You Begin, The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners, General, How-To
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 2230 Read Count: 354
[Report This] Published: 05/26/2016 Updated: 06/04/2016
Summary:

What not to do for new Doms and how community leaders can handle the arrogant, clueless, and downright dangerous.


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle, Dominance
Characters: None
Content Notes: D/s-M/s, For Beginners, Lifestyle Info
Series: None
Chapters: 2 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 2264 Read Count: 604
[Report This] Published: 10/22/2015 Updated: 11/11/2015
Summary:

Rules I learned by observing people I respect as photographers, riggers, and tops.    


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners, General
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 877 Read Count: 269
[Report This] Published: 10/22/2015 Updated: 11/11/2015
On Energy Play by Call Me Sid Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 1]
Summary:

There is more than just power that is exchanged in what it is that we do.


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: General
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 926 Read Count: 344
[Report This] Published: 10/06/2015 Updated: 11/11/2015
Deviants in BDSM by Master James Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

Since the BDSM community is so diverse a subculture, are there people part of the BDSM culture that you(others) see as deviant? 


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: General, Philosophy
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 608 Read Count: 378
[Report This] Published: 10/23/2015 Updated: 11/04/2015
The New Ten Commandments by Master James Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

The much anticipated, totally new, Ten Commandments, handed down to me from the supreme Uber Dom of the universe.


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: Humour, Lifestyle Info
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 219 Read Count: 615
[Report This] Published: 10/22/2015 Updated: 11/04/2015
Summary:

There is cognitive challenge in reconciling roles with perceived power (dominants) and roles with perceived powerlessness (submission, bottoming).    


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: D/s-M/s, General
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 962 Read Count: 606
[Report This] Published: 10/25/2015 Updated: 10/25/2015
Summary:

Coming out as kinky.


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners, How-To, Lifestyle Info
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1707 Read Count: 311
[Report This] Published: 10/19/2015 Updated: 10/20/2015
Protocol (as I see it) by Call Me Sid Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

Educating oneself about how others live, and the reasons why, will create a bond of common understanding and possibly fluidity where appropriate etiquette is applied.


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: Protocol
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1461 Read Count: 362
[Report This] Published: 10/06/2015 Updated: 10/20/2015
Summary:

Sharing advice with the 'Newbs' that I wish I'd been given when first getting involved in this 'Lifestyle'.    


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 2392 Read Count: 265
[Report This] Published: 10/05/2015 Updated: 10/20/2015
Summary:

Spotting the signs and dealing with the aftereffects of being used by a predator in the BDSM lifesyle.


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: Lifestyle Info
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1439 Read Count: 370
[Report This] Published: 10/19/2015 Updated: 10/20/2015
Who Are You? by Norische Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

Defining Your Role Within The BDSM Realm


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: D/s-M/s, For Beginners
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1590 Read Count: 300
[Report This] Published: 09/09/2015 Updated: 10/04/2015
Writer’s Block by Norische Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

Journals and Diaries, the benefits of submissive journalling.


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: General
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1421 Read Count: 340
[Report This] Published: 09/09/2015 Updated: 10/01/2015
Top Hat and Tails: by Norische Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

Instruction on the basics of formal protocol in a Don/sub relationship.


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners, General, How-To, Lifestyle Info, Protocol
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1899 Read Count: 433
[Report This] Published: 09/08/2015 Updated: 10/01/2015
Summary:

A personal experience with harassment and tools to assist others overcome harassment n a D/s relationship. 


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: General
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 2647 Read Count: 275
[Report This] Published: 08/16/2015 Updated: 08/21/2015
Choose Your Words Carefully by Norische Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

When you wish a specific behavior to occur you must use specific words. Don't vs. Stop, Nude vs. Naked, Humiliation VS Degradation, Dehumanization VS Depersonalization, Want VS Need


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: General
Series: None
Chapters: 5 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 2383 Read Count: 2321
[Report This] Published: 08/19/2015 Updated: 08/19/2015
Summary:

As you can see there are a lot of hidden meanings in different phrases and statements that individuals use and they may or may not realize the full weight of what they are stating.


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: General
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 981 Read Count: 277
[Report This] Published: 08/15/2015 Updated: 08/18/2015
Primal by Carrotstick Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

Helping those in the Kink community recognize and embrace Primals, and help other, unknowing, Primals to self-identify and realize they are not alone.    


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: Philosophy, Primal/Pet
Series: None
Chapters: 2 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 2141 Read Count: 1023
[Report This] Published: 08/15/2015 Updated: 08/17/2015
Summary:

Corsetry's Place in the B&D Scene


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: General
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1424 Read Count: 1221
[Report This] Published: 03/22/2015 Updated: 03/22/2015
Summary:

Rules for a little game


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1369 Read Count: 609
[Report This] Published: 03/22/2015 Updated: 03/22/2015
Negotiation First Terms by Shelby Cross Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

The first terms of my scene negotiations. This is what I can offer, and what I need you to give me. If these preliminary terms cannot be met, then we have nothing further to talk about.


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners, Lifestyle Info
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1092 Read Count: 1441
[Report This] Published: 01/22/2015 Updated: 01/23/2015
Summary:

Wanting to belong to the BDSM community often makes newbies forget about protecting themselves, first.


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1468 Read Count: 1343
[Report This] Published: 01/22/2015 Updated: 01/23/2015
Fashion and the Scene by Sensuous Sadie Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

Fetish wear: mandatory, on the cheap, and fun stuff


Categories: The Lifestyle > You in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners, General
Series: None
Chapters: 3 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 3795 Read Count: 4125
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/21/2014
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