Please take a moment to read the article titled 'Hard Limits' before continuing to read this article.
Public Play or scening is a fairly popular past-time for members of the D/s or BDSM community. It is for many an opportunity to socialize with other members of the local community
Many forms of BDSM scening involve the intense involvement of the skin and tissues of the submissive/slave in the scene. A newcomer to BDSM often brings with them all of the images they have seen, read about or heard often through pornographic films, dime store erotica books and tales stretched till they reek like old fish
When in doubt - be courteous. Good manners are always appropriate especially in the event of unexpected situations where you are unsure of what to do or say.
MJ's girl, Kim Debron, talks about BDSM club etiquette and her experiences owning a club. March 7, 2020
Signalling erotic intent with clothing. April 15, 2020 by kissa and little dragon
Love your Bootblacks? I know a lot of you do. Here's one thing you can do to help us out without tipping a penny.
Scene speech is a language that we develop and use solely in-scene. We reserve this speech to augment and accentuate the atmosphere of the scene and often to heighten the sensory experience for both Dominant and submissive.
One of my contributions to Black Rose was the development of the Dungeon Monitoring Training Program, in 1998. I was the maintainer of the DM Guide until Kernmantle stepped down as Chief DM, in the mid 2000s. The attached handbook was my last revision which addressed new issues like the relationship between safety and dungeon design as well as my attempt to classify different kinds of play by safety risk factors. I wrote it so that it did NOT include, as earlier versions did, a defacto, built in set of house rules. It was my hope that this would make it easier to adapt to a wide range of play environments, be they home dungeon parties, fetish clubs, or thousand person play events with differing sets of needs.
When you first get into the scene you tend to meet a ton of new people. So how do you check up on your new found friend(s)?
Tips on Safe Words, Limits, and Scene Protocol
Most dungeons hold many dangers, by their very design they encourage pain and suffering, but you must do all that is within your power to make sure that the playroom and the instruments of torture that you use are kept clean and as sanitary as possible to avoid unintentional harm.
Thoughts on how to keep clubs and play parties safer and accident free. Written with ogre kabneched
When there isn't a local casual meet-up, here is how to make one.
Preparing for those special encounters.
Tips on how to use and acquire clothing and props to enhance your scenes
I wish someone had told me this stuff before my first trip to a dungeon. But no, I had to learn the hard way! Now maybe some of you don't.
(Version 1.4, written 8/14/03) What to expect at a munch, and some dos and do nots to get around with other lifestylers.
DM's are mainly there to ensure that the party rules are complied with and to otherwise create a safe space for the attendees. However, DMs are also the delegates of the host, and they both can and should assist the attendees as possible in enjoying the party
What happens at a play party - questions answered.
Emphasising the important and practice of cleanliness and sanitation in play.