Stories
Summary:

How to spot a faker.


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1689 Read Count: 241
[Report This] Published: 05/28/2017 Updated: 05/28/2017
Some Thoughts on Consent... by Esox Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

Within the BDSM Scene there is a lot of conversation about consent. And there should be.    


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners, General, How-To
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 992 Read Count: 681
[Report This] Published: 05/18/2016 Updated: 06/04/2016
Summary:

The most important thing of all is the accountability of the individuals engaged in the activity itself.    


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: SSC/RACK
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1375 Read Count: 1
[Report This] Published: 05/18/2016 Updated: 05/26/2016
Summary:

This is an article I wrote in 1997 addressing what I felt to be inadequacies in SM's most famous rubric.    


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: SSC/RACK
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 3181 Read Count: 385
[Report This] Published: 05/25/2016 Updated: 05/26/2016
The No Limits Fallacy by Esox Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

How many times have you come across someone (it doesn't matter Dom/mme, sub, Master, slave, switch, Top, bottom) that either claims to be or is seeking someone that is "no limits"?


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: SSC/RACK
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 493 Read Count: 762
[Report This] Published: 05/18/2016 Updated: 05/26/2016
Summary:

There are two viewpoints on personal safty in the lifestyle, but they aren't mutualy exclusive, no matter what some claim.


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: SSC/RACK
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1319 Read Count: 351
[Report This] Published: 10/23/2015 Updated: 11/11/2015
Summary:

I believe in the combination of both S.S.C. (Safe, Sane, Consensual) and R.A.C.K. (Risk, Aware/Assessed, Consensual, Kink).    


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: SSC/RACK
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 747 Read Count: 676
[Report This] Published: 10/06/2015 Updated: 11/11/2015
Summary:

I believe positive and responsible consent education is a constructive and effective tool to combat the sheer volume of occurrences of rape.


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1564 Read Count: 335
[Report This] Published: 10/23/2015 Updated: 11/04/2015
Summary:

Consent is only part of the triad of SSC. It all matters.


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: SSC/RACK
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 822 Read Count: 256
[Report This] Published: 10/22/2015 Updated: 11/04/2015
Summary:

If someone isn't directly giving me consent, then there is no consent in my opinion.


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners, General
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1195 Read Count: 228
[Report This] Published: 10/06/2015 Updated: 10/25/2015
Whip Me, Beat Me, Take Me Home by Norische Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

A guideline for first time meetings.


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners, General, SSC/RACK
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 400 Read Count: 360
[Report This] Published: 09/10/2015 Updated: 10/04/2015
When Is It Rape? by Norische Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

Understanding Consent. Washington's Legal Definition of Rape


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: General
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 2379 Read Count: 673
[Report This] Published: 09/09/2015 Updated: 10/04/2015
Want To Play Doctor? by Norische Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

First aid for BDSM; types of wounds, treatments and when to get professional help


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: General
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 2323 Read Count: 246
[Report This] Published: 09/10/2015 Updated: 09/29/2015
P.R.I.C.K. by _q_ Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

P.R.I.C.K. is a a common guiding principal for relationships and activities, and stands for Personal Responsibility in Informed Consensual Kink


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: Philosophy
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 337 Read Count: 943
[Report This] Published: 07/17/2015 Updated: 07/23/2015
Abuse: A Common Link? by Castle Realm Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary: An insightful look at a serious issue in D/s relationships. Help for dealing with the ghosts from our pasts.
Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: Lifestyle Info
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 3049 Read Count: 1248
[Report This] Published: 03/21/2015 Updated: 03/22/2015
BDSM Safety by Jonathan Wyrd Brazell Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary: Past Featured Story

Life is not without risk, and our lifestyle even more so. Everyday we risk exposure, injury, emotional damage, but we accept those risks. Learning how to be safer and deal with possible problems is a major undertaking not to be ignored. A wide ranging introduction to safety practices in several different BDSM activies and venues.


Categories: How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely, The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management, Online D/s > Moving Offline, How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Blood Play, How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Electro Play, How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Fire, How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Getting Knotty, How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Hitting Other People, How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Wax
Characters: None
Content Notes: Blood, Bondage, Edge, Electro, For Beginners, How-To, Humiliation, Impact, Online, Safety, Sensation, SSC/RACK
Series: None
Chapters: 16 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 4670 Read Count: 35853
[Report This] Published: 01/26/2015 Updated: 02/02/2015
Summary:

How do I tell the difference between someone who really wants to help me, and someone who is a predator, an exploiter, someone who just wants to take advantage of me?"


Categories: Submission, The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: D/s-M/s, How-To, Lifestyle Info, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1212 Read Count: 1281
[Report This] Published: 01/22/2015 Updated: 01/22/2015
The Submissive in Charge by Sensuous Sadie Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

There are two different kinds of control, control over the bottom line (the ultimate), and control over a particular sphere of influence. Being ultimately in control means that the Submissive can always use his safeword and stop the action; they have veto power.


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1605 Read Count: 1224
[Report This] Published: 07/16/2014 Updated: 07/17/2014
Summary: Consent is what elevates BDSM play between willing adults above abuse. Abuse is both wrong and illegal. Here I analyze and define the terms in the now-familiar BDSM slogan "Safe, Sane, and Consensual".
Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: SSC/RACK
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1561 Read Count: 5
[Report This] Published: 07/14/2014 Updated: 07/16/2014
Summary:

An alternative to "SSC", "Risk-Aware, Consensual Kink"


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: General, SSC/RACK
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 488 Read Count: 792
[Report This] Published: 07/13/2014 Updated: 07/13/2014
Safe, Sane, and Consensual by Tamar Kay Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

The three tenants of BDSM


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: SSC/RACK
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 622 Read Count: 738
[Report This] Published: 07/11/2014 Updated: 07/11/2014
Red Flags by redhdlilone Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

Danger signs in forming new relationships and meeting play partners.


Categories: Online D/s > Moving Offline, The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners, General, Safety, SSC/RACK
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 607 Read Count: 988
[Report This] Published: 07/10/2014 Updated: 07/10/2014
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