How to spot a faker.
Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Content Notes: Safety
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1689 Read Count: 491
How to spot a faker.
The most important thing of all is the accountability of the individuals engaged in the activity itself.
This is an article I wrote in 1997 addressing what I felt to be inadequacies in SM's most famous rubric.
How many times have you come across someone (it doesn't matter Dom/mme, sub, Master, slave, switch, Top, bottom) that either claims to be or is seeking someone that is "no limits"?
There are two viewpoints on personal safty in the lifestyle, but they aren't mutualy exclusive, no matter what some claim.
I believe in the combination of both S.S.C. (Safe, Sane, Consensual) and R.A.C.K. (Risk, Aware/Assessed, Consensual, Kink).
Consent is only part of the triad of SSC. It all matters.
A guideline for first time meetings.
Understanding Consent. Washington's Legal Definition of Rape
First aid for BDSM; types of wounds, treatments and when to get professional help
P.R.I.C.K. is a a common guiding principal for relationships and activities, and stands for Personal Responsibility in Informed Consensual Kink
Life is not without risk, and our lifestyle even more so. Everyday we risk exposure, injury, emotional damage, but we accept those risks. Learning how to be safer and deal with possible problems is a major undertaking not to be ignored. A wide ranging introduction to safety practices in several different BDSM activies and venues.
How do I tell the difference between someone who really wants to help me, and someone who is a predator, an exploiter, someone who just wants to take advantage of me?"
There are two different kinds of control, control over the bottom line (the ultimate), and control over a particular sphere of influence. Being ultimately in control means that the Submissive can always use his safeword and stop the action; they have veto power.
An alternative to "SSC", "Risk-Aware, Consensual Kink"
The three tenants of BDSM
Danger signs in forming new relationships and meeting play partners.