"I am looking for a NEW SUBMISSIVE to collar as my slave." Why? This comment is perhaps one of the more common statements made by Male Dominant names in Internet chat rooms.
Common Mistakes New People Make
This is primarily oriented toward male submissives! It is designed to offer ideas, hints and suggestions based on some common male fetishes such as dog training, cross dressing, light humiliation etc.
Check your potential partners reputation. Ask questions. Ask subs they used to be with. Listen to the itch in your brain that something isn't right. Be safe.
Up till now it has all been long distance, detached from reality. Now what?
Sometimes we give much weight to what people say to us. This is particularly so for people who become known to each other through the Internet and phone.
Kajira kissa explains and demonstrates the magic mirror method of finding your own beauty and grace while serving online. April 21, 2020.
The validity of online life.
If he sounds too perfect online, ask some questions.
The types of "dom" that real Dominants are not.
Learning how to get a Dominant's/submissive's attention takes patience, practice, and restraint.
Absinthe may be served in two different ways. Elaborate Gorean style serves for each style.
To me an internet relationship is more of a role playing game, one where there is no risk, no possibility of failure.
The importance of serving, both online and off.
A very insightful look at how we create online partners in our own image--and end up disappointed when they don't quite end up being what we thought they were.
Important advice for the beginning submissive. Advice, submissive to submissive.
Words of warning on making the transition from virtual to real-life relationships.
Lord Colm throws the penalty flag on some of the more inane and senseless online practices.
Lord Colm's Discussion on "Mutual Respect in a D/s Relationship", a chat lecture
Suggestions for surviving, growing, and making it work. From the D/s Lighthouse discussion series, by jade.
Practical, helpful advice for making the transition from an online relationship to real-life.
Tips on spotting the fakes and dealing with the pitfalls of online D/s relationships.
by Lapp Topp Everyone's got a type. These are a few of them.
Life is not without risk, and our lifestyle even more so. Everyday we risk exposure, injury, emotional damage, but we accept those risks. Learning how to be safer and deal with possible problems is a major undertaking not to be ignored. A wide ranging introduction to safety practices in several different BDSM activies and venues.
Learn to recognize the snerts, horny net geeks, control freak, and outright predators online and when you move offline.