Content Notes: Safety
Stories
Summary:

Melanoma is an increasingly common form of life-threatening cancer, usually found on the skin, and known for its early and rapid tendency to spread to other organs. Melanoma is frequently found on the back -- a location often whipped during SM play. The back is also a location not easy for a person to examine themselves. Studies have shown that manipulation of a melanoma (and a whip stroke, spank, or other type of blow would, obviously, be a form of "manipulation") definitely increases the number of cancer cells that break off and begin to spread to other parts of the body. It is therefore essential that SM practitioners know how to spot possible melanomas, both on themselves and on their partners, to avoid whipping or otherwise disturbing melanomas, and to  receive early, definitive medical diagnosis and treatment.     


Categories: How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Hitting Other People
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To, Impact, Lifestyle Info, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1991 Read Count: 59
[Report This] Published: 05/20/2018 Updated: 05/27/2018
How to handle a seizure by Jay Wiseman Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

This article will deal primarily with a very common and dramatic type of seizure often called the grand mal seizure, both in vanilla and BDSM settings. 


Categories: How-To > Non-Kinky Things
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners, General, Lifestyle Info, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 6148 Read Count: 65
[Report This] Published: 05/20/2018 Updated: 05/27/2018
Summary:

This text has been prepared by an M.D. with a personal and professional interest in D/s. It covers topics such as safer sex, preventing and treating injury, and psychological safety. It is offered freely to the D/s community in the hopes of assisting others to find joy and fulfillment in a safe and sane environment.    


Categories: How-To > Before You Begin
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners, General, How-To, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 2837 Read Count: 70
[Report This] Published: 05/16/2018 Updated: 05/16/2018
Summary:

Not everything you find on the Internet, when looking for safety advice, is good information. Much of it in fact forms part of very persistent urban legends. Here is a simple list of first line safety issues: the myth as well as the facts.    


Categories: How-To > Before You Begin
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners, General, How-To, Lifestyle Info, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 2277 Read Count: 36
[Report This] Published: 05/15/2018 Updated: 05/15/2018
Summary:

How to spot a faker.


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1689 Read Count: 535
[Report This] Published: 05/28/2017 Updated: 05/28/2017
On Botanicals by Urticus Rated: Provocative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

Updated 5/5/16 Certain botanical irritants are very efficient at causing pain without damage or much effort. A discussion of using nettles, ginger, and peppers in play.


Categories: How-To > Equipment > Sensation Play
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1137 Read Count: 25
[Report This] Published: 06/13/2015 Updated: 05/26/2016
First Aid Kit Info by camilletoh Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

First aid kit contents and basic first aid tips.


Categories: How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners, General, How-To, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1127 Read Count: 509
[Report This] Published: 05/18/2016 Updated: 05/26/2016
Summary:

Exploring The Dunning-Kruger effect in BDSM.


Categories: Dominance
Characters: None
Content Notes: D/s-M/s, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 962 Read Count: 814
[Report This] Published: 10/22/2015 Updated: 11/11/2015
Play Table by Master James Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 1]
Summary:

This is the Play Table that I compiled and use in my House.    


Categories: How-To > Before You Begin
Characters: None
Content Notes: General, How-To, Safety, SSC/RACK
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 708 Read Count: 617
[Report This] Published: 10/24/2015 Updated: 11/11/2015
Summary:

I believe positive and responsible consent education is a constructive and effective tool to combat the sheer volume of occurrences of rape.


Categories: The Lifestyle > Consent
Characters: None
Content Notes: Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1564 Read Count: 566
[Report This] Published: 10/23/2015 Updated: 11/04/2015
Summary:

In sub frenzy, the stupid decisions of the sub, result in the sub getting hurt. In Dom frenzy, the stupid decisions of the Dom, result in the sub getting hurt.


Categories: Dominance
Characters: None
Content Notes: D/s-M/s, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 810 Read Count: 1281
[Report This] Published: 10/22/2015 Updated: 11/04/2015
Bondage Safety by Guilty Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

Bondage safety hints, tips, tricks, and musts.


Categories: How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Getting Knotty
Characters: None
Content Notes: Bondage, How-To, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 2122 Read Count: 604
[Report This] Published: 10/19/2015 Updated: 10/20/2015
Summary:

A few things I have learned about pegging.


Categories: How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Sex: Tab A in Slots B, C, and D
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1040 Read Count: 47
[Report This] Published: 10/09/2015 Updated: 10/18/2015
Safety by XlfodX Rated: Provocative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

How to be safe when finding a male-dominant play partner    


Categories: The Lifestyle > Finding a Partner
Characters: None
Content Notes: Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 417 Read Count: 18
[Report This] Published: 10/03/2015 Updated: 10/04/2015
It's Raining Men by Norische Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

Basics of Water Sports


Categories: How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Bathroom Business
Characters: None
Content Notes: Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1876 Read Count: 604
[Report This] Published: 09/09/2015 Updated: 09/09/2015
Interview Questions by Norische Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

Questions for a submissive/bottom before a scene.


Categories: How-To > Checklists & Negotiation
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 233 Read Count: 579
[Report This] Published: 08/15/2015 Updated: 08/19/2015
Summary:

Some negotiation questions I use as a top to better learn about my bottoms, their character, and their interest in play.    


Categories: How-To > Checklists & Negotiation, Dominance
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners, General, How-To, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 2384 Read Count: 38
[Report This] Published: 08/14/2015 Updated: 08/18/2015
Summary:

I'm so tired of being told that there's no abuse in Fifty Shades of Grey that I've to compiled a list of fifty abusive moments in the novel.


Categories: The Lifestyle > BDSM and the Media
Characters: None
Content Notes: Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 10080 Read Count: 20
[Report This] Published: 03/14/2015 Updated: 03/22/2015
Summary:

What was wrong with the movie in 5 categories: Abusive manipulative behavior hiding behind consensual kink, Mr Grey is an asshole, unsafe or generally bad BDSM, unrealistic characters, and filming fuck ups.


Categories: The Lifestyle > BDSM and the Media
Characters: None
Content Notes: Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 3758 Read Count: 17
[Report This] Published: 02/21/2015 Updated: 02/21/2015
BDSM Safety by Jonathan Wyrd Brazell Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary: Past Featured Story

Life is not without risk, and our lifestyle even more so. Everyday we risk exposure, injury, emotional damage, but we accept those risks. Learning how to be safer and deal with possible problems is a major undertaking not to be ignored. A wide ranging introduction to safety practices in several different BDSM activies and venues.


Categories: How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely, The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management, Online D/s > Moving Offline, How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Blood Play, How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Electro Play, How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Fire, How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Getting Knotty, How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Hitting Other People, How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Wax
Characters: None
Content Notes: Blood, Bondage, Edge, Electro, For Beginners, How-To, Humiliation, Impact, Online, Safety, Sensation, SSC/RACK
Series: None
Chapters: 16 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 4670 Read Count: 46612
[Report This] Published: 01/26/2015 Updated: 02/02/2015
Summary:

How do I tell the difference between someone who really wants to help me, and someone who is a predator, an exploiter, someone who just wants to take advantage of me?"


Categories: Submission, The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: D/s-M/s, How-To, Lifestyle Info, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1212 Read Count: 1794
[Report This] Published: 01/22/2015 Updated: 01/22/2015
Summary:

Knowing the difference between the real deal and a poseur so you can keep safe.


Categories: Dominance
Characters: None
Content Notes: D/s-M/s, For Beginners, General, Lifestyle Info, Philosophy, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 386 Read Count: 2190
[Report This] Published: 01/21/2015 Updated: 01/21/2015
Essay on Self-Bondage by Jay Wiseman Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

Being in highly restrictive bondage and completely alone certainly seems to be the number-one killer of sadomasochists.


Categories: How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Auto Erotica, How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Getting Knotty
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 584 Read Count: 2034
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/22/2014
Summary:

A quick, safe help t get  suspended person to the ground.


Categories: How-To > Equipment > Suspension
Characters: None
Content Notes: Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 594 Read Count: 1476
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/22/2014
Commotio Cordis and SM Play by Jay Wiseman Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

Both SM players and party givers should be aware that the risk of such a cardiac arrest happening as a result of a blow to the bottom's chest is low but not non-existent


Categories: How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Hitting Other People
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 2062 Read Count: 1110
[Report This] Published: 07/21/2014 Updated: 07/22/2014
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