Content Notes: Safety
Stories
Summary:

10/29/22 We discuss using Botanicals in BDSM, including botanicals used for health reasons, safety precautions in BDSM, and the use of many plants, vegetables, herbs, weeds, and spices in giving pain.


Categories: The Lifestyle > Garden Chat Topics
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To, Safety, Sensation
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 7033 Read Count: 342
[Report This] Published: 11/03/2022 Updated: 11/03/2022
Vetting by Garden Chat Topics, Sero Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

10/5/22 Discussion about Vetting New Partners


Categories: The Lifestyle > Finding a Partner, The Lifestyle > Garden Chat Topics
Characters: None
Content Notes: D/s-M/s, For Beginners, General, How-To, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 3331 Read Count: 273
[Report This] Published: 10/09/2022 Updated: 10/09/2022
SANITY by FRR Mallory Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

Much is said about Safe, Sane and Consensual within the BDSM lifestyle, it has become a cornerstone catch word for living. What isn't being discussed is the necessary evaluation of mental condition that it entails upon all people.     


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: Safety, SSC/RACK
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1043 Read Count: 257
[Report This] Published: 07/04/2021 Updated: 03/04/2022
SAFE WORDS ~ NO SAFETY by FRR Mallory Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

One of the most talked about features of the BDSM community is the existence and usage of the Safe Word or Safe Call or Safe Sign.    


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: Philosophy, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 855 Read Count: 269
[Report This] Published: 07/04/2021 Updated: 03/04/2022
Summary:

The 'idea' of 'risk aware' has been around a long time. The problem being that most people are not really aware of the risks at all.    


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1013 Read Count: 236
[Report This] Published: 07/04/2021 Updated: 03/04/2022
Summary:

Check your potential partners reputation. Ask questions. Ask subs they used to be with. Listen to the itch in your brain that something isn't right. Be safe.


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: Online, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1438 Read Count: 367
[Report This] Published: 02/23/2021 Updated: 03/01/2021
Dealing With Abuse by FRR Mallory, FRR Mallory Rated: Provocative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

Please note - If you have a serious mental illness relating to abuse in any form that you should immediately seek out excellent professional assistance and work through, process or otherwise reach a point of mental stability. This should occur prior to seeking out or engaging in a D/s relationship. A D/s relationship requires mental health or competence as part of it's fundamental ideal of consent! You should not look for a relationship to rescue or heal your abuse!


Categories: Submission, The Lifestyle > YOU in the Lifestyle
Characters: None
Content Notes: Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1927 Read Count: 12
[Report This] Published: 11/01/2020 Updated: 01/19/2021
Summary:

MJ's girl, Kim Debron, talks about BDSM club etiquette and her experiences owning a club. March 7, 2020


Categories: How-To > Protocol, How-To > A Trip to the Dungeon
Characters: None
Content Notes: Protocol, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 6063 Read Count: 422
[Report This] Published: 04/18/2020 Updated: 04/18/2020
Summary:

3/24/20 Serrian talks about the importance of limits, safewords, and aftercare online and off. 


Categories: How-To > Before You Begin, The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management, How-To > Aftercare, How-To > Safe Words, The Lifestyle > Garden Chat Topics
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners, How-To, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1646 Read Count: 408
[Report This] Published: 03/26/2020 Updated: 04/17/2020
Summary:

Among the many problems that can happen in a scene, panic attacks can be a serious one, especially if the Top doesn't know how to handle them.


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: General, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 928 Read Count: 862
[Report This] Published: 02/10/2019 Updated: 09/24/2019
Summary:

BDSM Red Flags


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: Lifestyle Info, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 377 Read Count: 483
[Report This] Published: 12/24/2018 Updated: 06/30/2019
Summary:

If someone suffers from, or has a history of, hemorrhoids, how (if at all) will this affect one's ability to participate in anal activities.


Categories: How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Bathroom Business
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1416 Read Count: 18
[Report This] Published: 04/25/2019 Updated: 05/05/2019
Summary:

Concerning Gaslighting


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1385 Read Count: 671
[Report This] Published: 12/29/2018 Updated: 02/04/2019
Summary:

If he sounds too perfect online, ask some questions. 


Categories: Online D/s > Moving Offline
Characters: None
Content Notes: General, How-To, Online, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 2 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 301 Read Count: 1542
[Report This] Published: 12/16/2018 Updated: 01/12/2019
MRC by mxponysyn Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

MRC as a safety anagram.


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: Philosophy, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 534 Read Count: 616
[Report This] Published: 12/24/2018 Updated: 01/12/2019
Summary:

"What are some good questions to ask a prospective Dom to help spot the fakes and the predators?"    


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management, Online D/s > Moving Offline
Characters: None
Content Notes: General, How-To, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 400 Read Count: 707
[Report This] Published: 12/16/2018 Updated: 01/12/2019
Summary:

When beginning a relationship, submissives and littles must go slow and go smart. 


Categories: The Lifestyle > DDlg MDlb CGl ABDLmnop, The Lifestyle > Finding a Partner
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To, Lifestyle Info, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 2 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1877 Read Count: 1686
[Report This] Published: 12/26/2018 Updated: 01/04/2019
About Plugs by DDlgdoodles Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

What are buttplugs made of? What types of lube can be used with them?


Categories: How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Sex Toys
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To, Primal/Pet, Safety, Sex Toys
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 301 Read Count: 736
[Report This] Published: 12/02/2018 Updated: 01/01/2019
Summary:

Fainting or blacking out (known medically as "syncope") is not infrequent in a play setting, especially when rope suspension is involved. In the majority of cases, the fainter will recover quickly. Don't panic! At an event or a venue where medical staff is available, immediately call them if someone faints.    


Categories: How-To > Before You Begin
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners, How-To, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1648 Read Count: 729
[Report This] Published: 11/30/2018 Updated: 11/30/2018
Summary:

Melanoma is an increasingly common form of life-threatening cancer, usually found on the skin, and known for its early and rapid tendency to spread to other organs. Melanoma is frequently found on the back -- a location often whipped during SM play. The back is also a location not easy for a person to examine themselves. Studies have shown that manipulation of a melanoma (and a whip stroke, spank, or other type of blow would, obviously, be a form of "manipulation") definitely increases the number of cancer cells that break off and begin to spread to other parts of the body. It is therefore essential that SM practitioners know how to spot possible melanomas, both on themselves and on their partners, to avoid whipping or otherwise disturbing melanomas, and to  receive early, definitive medical diagnosis and treatment.     


Categories: How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Hitting Other People
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To, Impact, Lifestyle Info, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1991 Read Count: 1011
[Report This] Published: 05/20/2018 Updated: 05/27/2018
How to handle a seizure by Jay Wiseman Rated: Conservative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

This article will deal primarily with a very common and dramatic type of seizure often called the grand mal seizure, both in vanilla and BDSM settings. 


Categories: How-To > Non-Kinky Things
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners, General, Lifestyle Info, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 6148 Read Count: 845
[Report This] Published: 05/20/2018 Updated: 05/27/2018
Summary:

This text has been prepared by an M.D. with a personal and professional interest in D/s. It covers topics such as safer sex, preventing and treating injury, and psychological safety. It is offered freely to the D/s community in the hopes of assisting others to find joy and fulfillment in a safe and sane environment.    


Categories: How-To > Before You Begin
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners, General, How-To, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 2837 Read Count: 862
[Report This] Published: 05/16/2018 Updated: 05/16/2018
Summary:

Not everything you find on the Internet, when looking for safety advice, is good information. Much of it in fact forms part of very persistent urban legends. Here is a simple list of first line safety issues: the myth as well as the facts.    


Categories: How-To > Before You Begin
Characters: None
Content Notes: For Beginners, General, How-To, Lifestyle Info, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 2277 Read Count: 743
[Report This] Published: 05/15/2018 Updated: 05/15/2018
Summary:

How to spot a faker.


Categories: The Lifestyle > Safe, Sane Risk Management
Characters: None
Content Notes: Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1689 Read Count: 1702
[Report This] Published: 05/28/2017 Updated: 05/28/2017
On Botanicals by Urticus Rated: Provocative [Reviews - 0]
Summary:

Updated 5/5/16 Certain botanical irritants are very efficient at causing pain without damage or much effort. A discussion of using nettles, ginger, and peppers in play.


Categories: How-To > Doing the Kinky Safely > Sensation, How-To > Equipment > Sensation Play
Characters: None
Content Notes: How-To, Safety
Series: None
Chapters: 1 Table of Contents
Completed: Yes Word count: 1137 Read Count: 36
[Report This] Published: 06/13/2015 Updated: 05/26/2016
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