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You are most welcome to The Masque, The WIKtT Archives, The Garden, and the Courtesan's Ballroom. Please abide by the Courtesan's rules to ensure an enjoyable time in her home.

sub Haven Mission Statement:

Our safe spot for just us submissives. This is not a place for disrespect or try to be above another. This room is where we can be lower protocol, laid back, vent, lean on one another, and build one another up in our times of needs. We will help each other be our best!

sub Haven Room Rules

1. All Site Rules and TOS apply
a. No sexual scene playing in main chat.
b. No trolling, inclusive of passive aggressive trolling.

2. No Dominants may enter the room.

3. S/switches in submissive mode are welcomed.
a. No one may be in Dominant mode when visiting the submissive room
b. If a known Dominant enters room, they are subject to immediate block from room
c. Dominants not attached to a submissive may not PM submissives who are in sub Haven. If you wish to not be PM'd, please advise the Dominant you are in sub Haven and currently taking a break. Continuation of a declined request, you may place user on ignore
d. Continual circumvention of a room block, if you are Dominant, may result in permanent site ban

4. PM courtesy - always ask permission to PM unless a blanket release has been given to you. PM blankets may be withdrawn at any time by the other person without needing to explain why

5. Boundaries of action texting another member should be requested and consensual. i.e. hugging, kissing are forms of actions with another member. General courtesy as if offline face to face should be observed

6. No encouraging other submissives to disrespect their own or any Dominant, other members both online or offline, or site/room rules.
a. no making purposeful statements of intent of going against their own Dominant's wishes
b. no giving appearance it is ok to be purposeful in not following any rules or Site established protocols when in other rooms that mandate higher protocols
c. no BDSM bratting, contrary behavior and/or no seeking negative attention either in main chat or in PMs Negative Attention seeking is a site TOS violation
d. no bragging in a manner to promote jealousy, purposeful demeaning, intentional hurting another member, and/or passive aggressive forms of trolling and/or revenge
e. no seeking advice for the same issue with multiple users in PM as this is a form of negative attention seeking, a TOS violation. Ask in main for a group opinion.
f. no pornographic images not related to a topic of discussion and/or BDSM teaching theme. If unsure, ask a mod to preview to give permission to release the photograph.

5. This is a decompression room and fellow submissive solidarity room.
a. playful cheekiness welcomed. No brat behavior (see rule 6c)
b. venting will be either general frustration or
c. seeking for solutions if any possible
d. encouraging and supporting positive behavior changes
e. all bottoms and submissives are equal regardless of kink or lifestyle choices.
1) be courteous to kink choices even if not your kink
2) be open to different views
f. no demanding subject/topic changes unless it is a room majority consensus by 70%.
1) if topic is sensitive to you, you may politely request a change to a room mod in PM backing up a reasonable statement as to why
2) if topic is not changed, then quietly excuse self out of room
g. no promotion of illegal substances, self-harm, or anything that can violate the tenets of safe, sane, consensual (SSC)

This site, its chat rooms, and/or membership are not/are not encouraged act as or to be certified or qualified to assist or advise any members with the tenets of Rule 5g or any mental health issues. Any licensed therapeutic chat members may not be licensed in your country and/or US State to practice therapy and thus should not be called upon to assist with mental health issues. Users are encouraged to seek professional, certified help in your local community offline and follow those that therapies have been recommended to you.

6. General munch protocol of being polite and respectful of all govern the room.
a. permission to enter or leave is not observed in this rule. We are all equals to each other.
b. encourage single submissives and those new to learning about D/s on presenting their best self to get the attention of other Dominants
c. be mindful, each submissive may have varying protocols that may not exactly match yours.

7. sub Haven's posts are not to be captured by any of its members for reduplication to any other member unless it is for the express purpose of site moderation needs, which will only go to a Site moderator of any rank regardless of Dominant, submissive, or S/switch status.
a. No tattle telling on a submissive. Taken submissives are expected to be honest with their Dominant(s), Mentor(s), or Protector(s)
b. exceptions to violating the no tattle telling:
1) known TOS violations
2) known room violations
c. please attempt to resolve with assigned Room Moderators in private conversation.
1) If you feel you need to escalate your concerns, feel free to contact any Global Moderator or Site Administrator via private message, who will determine if it needs to escalate to Super Site Administrator and/or The Courtesan (site owner).

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