Masked dancers, in glowing silks and shimmering satin costumes and dominos gavotte under the candlelight of Murano crystal chandeliers. Velvet-curtained alcoves conceal card games and trysts while musicians in one corner play for the dancers. Uniformed footmen offer champagne to all. Resting on a table near a gilded door, are feathered half-masks for newcomers.
The Masque, The WIKtT Archives, and The Garden share a chat.
The Garden is an online resource community to educate those already practicing or wishing to learn the art and lifestyle of Domination and submission in their various forms and practices. Join us in reading and sharing through our growing collection of essays, definitions, and BDSM Munch-style chat. Ask questions, and with us, learn about how and why we do what we do but remember that while learning online can be wonderful, offline experience is the best, most fulfilling teacher.
About The BDMS Garden Chat Room
There is no excuse for not knowing these rules. These rules apply to all chatters.
Our BDSM Garden Room is a place where people from the D/s and BDSM community, both new and seasoned, gather to chat. We ask each other questions, give advice, and share experiences on all subjects. This community is open and built on trust.
We'd love to meet you but we would like you to read our etiquette expectations and traditions first, so you understand why we're doing the things we're doing in this room. We do request that you join us in celebrating some of the traditions of on and offline D/s. By no means are these traditions and expectations mandatory except our gentle request that everyone be respectful in their interactions. We do not always talk about BDSM so don't be scared. Join us, we're a friendly lot! Please join us in The BDSM Garden room!
The BDSM Garden Chat Room Etiquette, Expectations & Traditions... to better understand why we're doing the things we're doing.
The BDSM Garden is a safe place to teach, learn, and celebrate all things related to Domination, submission, and BDSM. It is also understood that the topic of conversation varies greatly and does not always include D/s or BDSM. BDSM topics are always encouraged, however. Polite debate and discussion of D/s topics should be the goal of the chat room.
We hope you will join us in celebrating some of our traditions and behavior expectations.
• No one under the age of 18 is allowed on any The Masque Network website, no matter the laws in the country of residence. The Chat Monitors and Hosts will promptly remove any and all minors.
• NO under-age, incest, snuff, extreme violent sexual abuse, or bestiality role play, discussion, or requests are allowed, and offending chatters will be booted and banned without warning. Anyone found to be promoting illegal activities or distributing child pornography anywhere on The Masque and affiliated sites, including chat, will be reported to the appropriate authorities without mercy or hesitation.
• Respect the other chatters. We do not discriminate between those who particiate in BDSM activities and those who do not. We also have a policy of YKINMKBYKIOK (Your Kink Is Not My Kink, But Your Kink Is Okay). The only exceptions are violations of the site rules as listed above.
• We are primarily an educational site and proponents of people exploring all SSC/P.R.I.C.K./R.A.C.K. forms of kink and fetishes. Those who choose multiple partner or polyamorous exploration need for all involved to notify the Superadmin or The Courtesan of those involved so no misunderstandings happen. The admins have no need to share what is said in confidence.
• Chatters are respectfully requested to request a D/s role and gender and have a correct age listed in a chat profile located on the sites' forum.
• The Dominants govern the room. The Dominants, as a group, are empowered to control the behavior, discipline, and tone of the room. The Dominants should encourage others to ignore unpleasant elements in chat and encourage the misdirected chatter to the proper room. The submissives should let the dominants handle the issue. No single Dominant rules and no single Dominant enforces. Moderators are present to enforce the site rules and the decision of the Dominants, as long as they coincide with the site rules.
• Though allowing the Dominants the honor of assisting and protecting is preferred and encouraged, under any circumstances, the submissives are empowered to defend themselves. Use of the Block button is suggested for the entire room. Moderators are present to enforce the site rules.
• Traditionally, a Capitalized name is a Dominant or Top; a lowercase name is a submissive or bottom. Your mileage and grammar preferences may vary.
• While we understand English grammar rules, traditionally, a Dominant is referred to with capitalized pronouns and honorifics as a courtesy, i.e., Her, You, They, Sir, Ma'am; a submissive is referred to with lowercase. This may translate into using phrases like "Y/you A/all", meaning a collective of Dominants and submissives. Submissive or slave referral to self in third person is acceptable and may be considered a formality. Honorifics are not required in chat.
• Submissives are encouraged ask permission to enter and leave the chat room. Dominants should grant entrance promptly. This immediately reminds every person attending that this is a BDSM room. It puts the submissives into a D/s mindset, rather than a generic chat or play mindset. Granting entrance engages the Dominants in their service and attentiveness, too. It produces a symbiosis of D/s in two sentences. It creates a theme of service and formality that differentiates this room from general chat rooms. Some Dominants have their own rules for their submissives' entrance. Those rules will always prevail.
• If a collared, protected, or otherwise claimed submissive misbehaves, discipline or correction will only be given by the Dominant he/she is protected by. If another Dominant has a complaint about a collared submissive, it should be given directly to that submissive's Dominant, privately.
• If an unowned submissive or a Dominant is disruptive, the other present Dominants, will manage the discussion/discipline of the member. This should be a group decision, and never the actions of a single Dominant, even if the matter must be tabled until Others are present.
• All members, including Moderators and Admins, will ask to private message other members of the room for any and all reasons. Blanket permission to private message may be offered but not demanded. Unsolicited private messages will be reported to the Superadmin.
• The rooms' submissives, slaves, and bottoms are not required to serve any person they are not bound to.
• We have a Topic Chats and theme several times per week. Guests are welcome to bring up any questions or new topics at any time, but we will direct chat toward the scheduled topic if there is a lag in the chat. On Topic photographs, art, quotations, thoughts, ideas, definitions, links, questions, teaching, experiences, and jokes are welcome before and after the presentation. A calendar for the chats is here: https://band.us/band/75555593
• Members new to BDSM, both Dominant and submissive, are encouraged to seek an experienced mentor for guidance and learning. Mentorship is not normally a sexual relationship and may or may not cross D/s lines. Questions from newer lifestyle people are always welcome in the room. It is always a good idea to research a mentor before asking for mentorship.
• While The Garden does have food and drinks from John Norman's Gor series, as well as furs for slaves; elaborate serves, dances, and furring are only allowed in the Il Solaio room.
• Scenes and explicit sexual activity should be kept in the Il Solaio room.
• Please do not post random porn photos or links to the The BDSM Garden room, we have a room specifically for those. We prefer our photos to be on theme and coincide with the topic being discussed. You are welcome to DJ during non-topic chat times.
• For ease of understanding, please spell out all of your words in chat and do not use text speak. This is an English-speaking chat.
• If chatters have issues on other sites, they are respectfully requested to leave those issues on that site, not bring them to The Masque or The Garden.
• Admins and moderators are not on the site to get involved in chatters' personal squabbles or to facilitate relationships. Moderators enforce site rules. If a chatter requests mediation through the site, the chatter must ask the Superadmin to arrange that. Superadmin is more than willing to mediate issues as they arise. Contact him via pm.
• No Chat Monitor will ask you for personal information to prove your identity (other than age - see below), nor will you be asked by any chat or site official or Board member for your password or to go to another site to provide that information. If you are approached, do not follow instructions and do not download any files made available or linked to in chat.
• Due to the history of minors intruding on the age restricted sites and chat, a moderator or admin may demand proof of age via certified photo (driver's license, State ID, or passport) held by the chatter, on a live video feed (cam). The image will not be saved or shared and is used exclusively to verify the user's age.
• No flooding, SPAMming, trolling, cloning, hacking, exploiting, spoofing, harassing, or racism. The Masque and affiliated sites are in no way responsible for any damage as a result of clicking on any non-native site link.
• Though we try to monitor chat, The Masque Network, Owner, and Admins are not responsible for any events, circumstances or actions perpetrated by those in or out of the chat room. Flag any offending post.
• The chat rooms are monitored randomly by Monitors and hosts. They have a broad spectrum of duties in the Ballroom and Garden, including aiding in the flow and function of chats and games and ensure that rules are followed. All CMs and Hosts can and will remove chatters (boot) and/or ban at will, according to the Courtesan's rules. Please be respectful of their time and energy.
• Each chatter is provided with an ignore button. Instead of causing drama and stress, flag the chatter's post and use the button provided on the offending chatter's profile.
• Excepting short "gif wars" during quiet times, all gifs, non-topic images, and memes should go in the #naughty-images room. All sexual or sensually themed images should go into that room.
• Topic Presenter, Admin, Moderator, and room host are volunteer positions. If for that reason alone, please give those people your respect and thanks for their time.
• No means no. Stop means stop. Neither one mean "maybe". Cease and desist when told to.
Each room has its own expectations and guidelines. If you are unclear on what they are, ASK. If you are directed to read a guidelines document, do so. If you are directed to another chat room that may better fit your advertised desires, please acquiesce.
The Masque, The WIKTT Archives, and The Garden Chatroom Moderators and Admins must abide by, too. Those rules are here.
Respect is earned. Civility is a requirement.
Specific Room Rules - Know the Rules for Your Room
• To view the rules for all Chats, click here.
• To view the rules for The BDSM Garden, click here.
• To view the rules for the Il Solaio, click here.
• To view the rules for the sub haven, click here.
• To view the rules for the pets and littles room, click here.
• To view the rules for Moderators and Admins, click here.
Event Etiquette and Rules
• To view the rules for the Hot Topics chatroom, click here.
• To view the Etiquette during Purposeful Topics, click here.
• To view the rules for Orgies and Play Parties, click here.
Site Links
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